on Nov 08, 2011 @ 11:26 pm|
Well I don't want to bring up subjects that are still raw, so only write if it doesn't feel negative.
I have been dealing with heart break. <-----awful, crushing....heart break.
If you are willing I think it would be helpful to hear some of your heart break stories and how you overcame them . I just feel like my pain is never ending and to hear that someone else's heartbreak had a good ending, or the tools you used to get through it would mean a lot to me.
I know you all are wise, strong, and amazing people . I always appreciate your advice and words of wisdom.
sending my love!
|:) on Nov 09, 2011 @ 10:29 pm|
Chocolate and wine. My answer to heart break.. granted you can't do that all the time, but in the meantime, it works ;) :)
Ali de Bold
|We've all been there on Nov 09, 2011 @ 10:36 pm|
I don't think there is a single one of us who've never had our hearts broken or let go of someone and then truly regretted it. The main thing you have to know and BELIEVE is that it does get better. No matter how crappy the breakup you will get to a point where you are truly over it. Just give yourself time and spend time with people who are positive and supportive.
|Life goes on... on Nov 10, 2011 @ 01:30 am|
FRIENDS AND OR FAMILY!
huge part of healing, IMO!
Granted chocolate and wine help a ton too...My advice that Ive used when dealing with heart break is staying busy, I found keeping my mind on other things and then coming home and relaxing with wine and a movie and letting myself cry my eyes out here and there helped me a ton. Its good to get it out and really feel those hurtful feelings and take it in, and then be able to say but life goes on and I will get over this and move on to a more positive additude. sometimes people like to write a letter to that person who hurt them and then burn it or send it to yourself...Theres a ton of things you can do to attempt to get rid of that pain but my advice is take it on and get past it :) you will love again! thats the good news...big hugs luv!
|Always Remember on Nov 10, 2011 @ 12:38 pm|
that You matter!! If it was meant to be it would have bin. We've all gone through this at one point, or another and if some of you haven't as of yet, you can bet it will happen at some point. It sucks I know, but the best thing I found when this happened to me was to get out of the house. Keep busy and try and have some fun with your closest friends. It will take some time heart brake always does, but one day you'll wake up and say; why was I so up set when I am so much better off with out him. Try doing something you've never done before, you just might find a new love in that and in time the right man will come along. I know that worked for me. Good luck and hugs!
|I believe that... on Nov 10, 2011 @ 01:09 pm|
Heartbreak is a lesson. A hard one, but still a lesson. I believe they're given to us to prepare us for something down the road - whether it be to appreciate someone/something more or simply to become a better person. I also believe heartbreak is sometimes the loss of something mediocre to make room for something amazing. At the time, it doesn't make sense and it hurts. But if you keep your head up and remember that now "something amazing" has to be right around the corner, your heart will mend.
In the mean time, surround yourself with friends and chocolate. Hugs!! All things heal with time.
|Make it about you! on Nov 10, 2011 @ 01:26 pm|
One of the things that helped me (and the advice I have given friends) was to just learn to be single again.
I find that I get all wrapped up in things or people sometimes and after a break up, I need to get back to where I once was- rediscover what I loved to do before. Hang out with friends and family I may have ignored. Spend time by yourself too- this is scary at first but you'll get used to it and rediscover yourself (in a good way).
Ex. I was in a relationship once and this person really liked certain colours etc. on me so I started dressing more in those for him- (he didn't ask or anything, it was more just something I wanted to do) but after the break up I realised I hadn't worn any of the (slightly weird, avant garde) clothing I used to love so I started wearing it again and feeling more like myself.
Exercise, eat right and lastly, my number one rule - Treat Yo'self.
It's kind of my mantra- after a particularly rough break up, I went to a store and purchased a number of items I had been coveting for a while. While it didn't help in the long run, for the rest of the week, I was really happy to have just done something for me!
|^ very true on Nov 10, 2011 @ 05:07 pm|
I have had my ups and downs with this topic. I can say I agree with Alexandra that you should take time for yourself. I consumed myself in projects, work and hobbies to avoid feeling sad. Also hanging out with positive people help. My mom is probs the one person I've told all my bad times to. She can't give me a ton of what to do advice but I appreciate her listening no matter how much I blab and she reassures me things get better.
I'm happily in a relationship right now with probs one of the sweetest guys I've met. But even we've had our iffier times. I think its important also to not let yorself become dependent on one another for happiness. I don't think entering a relationship while your unhappy with yourself is a good idea since it gives you the false impression a relationship will fix all that.