Im a FIANCE!!!

on Dec 12, 2011 @ 09:04 pm

I just got engaged, but my best friend hates him.  She feels that he took me away from her.  I have a feeling she will be rude when I tell her, and she may not even want to show up.  What do I do?

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Congratulations! on Dec 12, 2011 @ 10:39 pm

Congratulations Slaroche!If you are happy your friend should support that and be happy for you.This is YOUR day and don't let anyone ruin it for you.If your friend cant understand and support your happiness then she doesn't sound like a very good friend.When my friends have gotten married I have been overjoyed for them that's how a friendship should be.I hope she can be happy for you and supportive...Good Luck and enjoy this moment of being Engaged! :)

Ali de Bold
Congratulations! on Dec 12, 2011 @ 10:44 pm

Your friend needs to get over it. Unless she has a legitimate concern about his character or compatibility issues she should be nothing but happy for you. Who knows? Maybe she will react positively. If not, don't have her in your wedding party. You need friends who support you as a couple. Congratulations!!! When is the big day?

.. on Dec 12, 2011 @ 10:51 pm


Conrautulation on Dec 13, 2011 @ 09:31 am

I agree, your friend should be supporting you as you would her. Years
ago my best friend married this guy I knew wasn't right for her, eight
months later it was over. But I didn't say I told you so, or try and
talk her out of it before hand. I told her how I felt, but then I
dropped it and I even stood up in her wedding. I gave her all the support I
could even though I knew he wasn't right for her. It was up to her to
see that for herself, witch she did, it was just a bit late. Have a talk
with her and tell her how you feel, then drop it. If she's a true
friend she will do just as I did and support you through everything no
matter how she feels about the guy. She's not the one marring him you
are. True friends stand beside each other through thick and thin, they
laugh and cry together and even if you go in different directions in
life you still stay connected to each other through your hearts, your
souls and your words. If she's really is your best friend she will see
that your happiness should mean more to her then her fears and that
she shouldn't have any fears of losing you to begin with. Sit her
down and talk to her like true friends do.

Congrats! on Dec 13, 2011 @ 09:46 am

If this truly is your best friend, you shouldn't have to stress about telling her - she should be legitimately and genuinely happy for you.... unless there is some huge issue/character flaw or situation that might have happened which is the reason behind why she doesn't like him.

If the only reason why she hates him is because he's taken you away, that's just childish and unreasonable. People grow up, things's inevitable... not to say that you'll forget her, but you need to do you! And she needs to be supportive and want the best for you/want you to be/find/have happiness

Girl, be happy for yourself! You just got engaged!! Anyone who would try and steal your joy right now does not deserve a title best friend.

Congrats!!! on Dec 13, 2011 @ 09:59 am

That's exciting- so happy for you! But sorry to hear that your friend and he don't get along.

This is a bit silly but I have totally been in this situation but in the friend's position. One of my best friends had a boyfriend who I was not a fan of. She spent a lot of her time with him and to a certain extent, I am sure I was jealous, especially because she seemed to have forgotten all about me.

Try to understand this from her point of view and make sure she knows that she is still important to you. Maybe take her out for a girls night or spend a day getting pampered with her? Make sure to not talk too much about the fiance too! Be honest with her though and your feelings, be sure to hear her out too!

I think that if your friend is truly your friend, she will learn to respect your decisions. Maybe she won't agree with them but she will learn to be civil, respectful and one day, she will come around and I am sure she will learn to like your fiance.

Good luck!

Agreed.... on Dec 13, 2011 @ 12:11 pm

if she's your friend, then she'll come around.

Some ladies get really insecure when their good/best friend is starting to move forward in their life and the other girl is can be intimidating, scary and downright depressing when one feels like they have no movement in their life and they are watching all of the happy things happening to others.

I'd just encourage your friend to talk about what's going on. And if she can't be supportive after you put it out there in the open, then cut your losses. No one needs drama especially during a happy time of your life.

marriage on Dec 13, 2011 @ 09:20 pm


I have no real advice, but I do agree with what all the ladies before me have said. Good luck!

I think on Dec 13, 2011 @ 09:53 pm

If she's your best friend, then I hope that after you talk to her and establish why she hates him so much, she can be happy for you. When I got engaged, my 2 best friends were THRILLED just as I was for them. I called my best friend right after I got engaged so it makes me sad for you that you felt you couldn't. I think if she's truly a friend, she can get over it and be happy for you. Do you know why she doesn't like him? Pure jealousy?

I also 100% agree with Ali - if this can't be resolved, don't have her in your wedding party. It will cause nothing but stress for you and you want people in your party who will HELP you. Not stomp all over you.

If, worst case scenario, she refuses to be happy for you and cuts off all ties with you or something - that's unfortunate... however, if you're marrying this guy then he's your priority now and should come first.

Hope it works out!

Congrats! on Dec 14, 2011 @ 03:51 pm

Thats so lovely! Congratulations!
I hope your friend is happy for you regardless of her issues with your new fiance!
Good luck :)

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