on Aug 23, 2010 @ 06:29 pm|
BEFORE everyone jumps down my throat let me set the scene:
I had my own facebook account, until something went really wrong. Someone, who i thought was my old childhood friend...was in fact my ex boyfriend from a fake profile. I found this out coz i once told my 'friend' where i am going for the night and when i got home, my ex boyfriend was outside (at 2 in the morning!) waiting for me and started harrassing me. Ever since i have deleted facebook. I am so scared. This was something that scarred me.
So i have a boyfriend now and we have been dating for two years. He never had facebook, was never interested. So someone suggested we have a joint account seeing we feel we dont NEED it-we just wanna keep in contact with close friends. I would get my own, but then i would have to set hectic privacy settings and i dont want to go through all that trouble. Since my incident, i feel like i dont even want facebook.
So what are your thoughts on this? Silly? Should i just leave facebook?
|To TRY to give my opinion... on Aug 23, 2010 @ 07:48 pm|
Well first of all...is the question "Should you get a joint facebook account?" If so, that's fine but you are still going to want to set your privacy settings if you want your ex to leave you alone.
2nd of all, dont tell post when you are going somewhere. Not just because of your ex but because I saw on the news that other creepos can see it and if they know you are gone, they break into your house and steal your stuff. LOL Just saying. Other than that, if you have your suspicions bout his fake profiles, don't accept them unless you know it is really them. Then, tell him to grow up. What a freak!
|Settings on Aug 23, 2010 @ 10:30 pm|
Dont forget that you can block your boyfriend on facebook you can block anyone.You can also set your settings so that only your friends on your list are able to see your account its not hard to switch these applications in place,you can also set it so that if someone typed in your name they will not see your profile nothing will show up.So you can be on facebook and make it completely private.You mentioned being joint account with your new boyfriend.I would not want to share my account with my boyfriend its my own personal space online.But that is up to you.Personally I would just open a account yourself and get all your privacy settings set up.Also perhaps talk with friends through private chat on there.Be careful what you write on your wall so that by some chance someone who may be connected to your ex cant tell him things.Dont let a bad experience scare you away from facebook.
Ali de Bold
|Don't post overly personal contact on Aug 24, 2010 @ 09:34 am|
I have a lot of Facebook friends I don't know and have never met. Because of CA I get a lot of friend requests. In the end, I accept most of them. What I do to protect my privacy is I don't publicly post where I'm going to be and when. My updates aren't "Heading over to Starbucks at Richmond and Spadina" at 11pm at night. I talk about things after they have happened. I also instruct my friends and relatives not to post anything detailed on my wall and not to tag their children. If anyone does, I delete it. There are things you can do to protect yourself and the privacy settings is the most obvious.
I wouldn't create a joint Facebook account with anyone because it kind of defeats the purpose... and then what happens if/when you break up?
|Take Precautions on Aug 24, 2010 @ 09:36 am|
Privacy settings are incredibly important on facebook, but also pay attention to how you are using facebook in general. Your username doesn't have to be your name, purposely spell it different or use a nickname so that it's harder to find you via search. And leave out all personal information and don't broadcast your whereabouts. Think of it as a "need to know" basis.
As far as a joint account, I've seen a few of those popping up on my friends list now. It's popular for couples who are newly married. If it's privacy that you're worried about, I don't think having a joint account will make all that much of a difference. Whether the account is your own or shared, you should still be taking a lot of precautions on fb.
|Thanks for the replies :) on Aug 24, 2010 @ 03:04 pm|
Thanks all for your input :) But i dont really feel the need to HAVE facebook to express myself...its more like keeping in contact with really close friends and family. We are getting married as well, in about 6 months...So its not going to defeat any purpose.