on Dec 11, 2012 @ 11:37 am|
This is really embarassing but I'm 18 and have only been kissed twice. I go out clubbing with my friends once a week. How do I let guys know I'm interested? I'm not looking for anything serious. I'm only really looking for a bit of fun.
The last night I was out some guy told me I was beautiful and I totally ignored me. Should I have talked to him because it is a hard thing to do go up to some random girl? Or did I do the right thing.
|Re: Kissing on Dec 11, 2012 @ 01:30 pm|
First of all, being 18 and being kissed twice is not bad in any way. You have your whole life ahead of you, take it slow and don't feel pressured. When it comes to guys, I think just being friendly and open is one of the toughest but also the most important things to let them know that you are interested. I think a lot of the time people automatically shut down for fear of rejection but it's so counter productive because the other person then assumes you're not interested because you're acting like it! Don't be afraid to put yourself out there.
If you weren't interested in the guy, there's no shame in that. Don't feel bad to let him down and say thanks, but no thanks. Don't ever do anything you don't want or don't feel comfortable doing. Also, in my opinion, clubs aren't the best place to meet people, especially when you are young. Try joining clubs or activities at school and finding people who share your interests.
Ali de Bold
|Just as scared of you as you are of them on Dec 11, 2012 @ 02:34 pm|
I think it's important to remember that guys are just as scared/nervous as we are. Just be friendly and approachable like Alexandra said and don't worry about how many times you've been kissed. You have lots of opportunity for that ahead of you ;)
|Clubbing.... no on Dec 12, 2012 @ 10:42 pm|
As an almost 18 year old clubbing is not where you're going to generally find the right guy. I think that, most of them just go for the easiest chick there. That's just my opinion though.
And a guy telling you your beautiful is so sweet, you should have talked to him. Maybe just to find out of he was really interested and what not. Honestly though, don't worry the guys will come to you, when you are not looking for them.
|Agree on Dec 14, 2012 @ 02:38 pm|
I agree with everyone else. Don't worry about only being kissed twice, a lot of people are in the same boat! And you're still young, you'll have plenty of time for experience as time goes on. Rushing into anything will only lead to disaster!
The best advice is just to let nature take its fair course. When two people are mutually interested and care about each other, everything will just flow naturally. I understand that you're not looking for the love of your life right now/ trying to find a serious relationship, and that's totally fine you deserve to have fun, but just remember to be safe and giving guys the "wrong impression" can be a tricky and dangerous thing.
If you think 'playing it cool' by ignoring a guy who shows interest will make them like you more, you're very wrong...just be yourself. Everyone appreciates honesty!
|Hmm.. on Jan 01, 2013 @ 07:38 am|
Personally, I don't think you should be trying to find "fun" at clubs - but that's just me! I think for you being 18 years old and kissed twice is perfectly natural. I wouldn't be too concerned about it. Eventually you will want to gain some confidence, as you'll want to meet "Mr. Right" but for now, just keep having fun with your girlfriends.