on Nov 19, 2009 @ 01:35 am|
I've been seeing Jordan for about a month now. We always have a great time together, are very open with each other, and share the same interests. Last night, Jordan told me he was 'unsure' about everything. After he said that I tried ending things with him because if he doesn't know what he wants, then I don't deserve to sit and wait for him to figure it out. But when I tried ending things, he told me that he doesn't want things to end between us and that he's crazy about me, and that I need to tell him what I want.. Meaning, he wants to know what pace we should move at and the seriousness of our relationship. I know I want him, and I want to move at a pace that feels right for both him and I. This morning, he again apoligized for saying he was unsure about things and that he wants to be with me, and that the only reason he said those things to me was because he was intoxicated. So we're still seeing each other you could say, I just don't understand how he could think that when he's intoxicated and then when he's sober he apoligizes? And how do I talk to him about what I want in person? We both just want to be on the same page.
-Thanks Ladies! :)
Ali de Bold
|Early awkwardness on Nov 19, 2009 @ 09:56 am|
So he used liquid courage to have a heart to heart did he? Since your last conversation was influenced, why don't the two of you have "the talk" at a cafe or something over a coffee to see where the relationship stands.
Ask him what he is unsure about and what he wants from you. Then tell him what you want from him and see where that conversation nets out. If he's still flip flopping, see him less and let him figure out what he wants from you while you decide if he is someone you still want to spend time with.
The first few months of a relationship are the awkward part where you define 'this thing we have going here'. He could be saying he's unsure because he's insecure and trying to gauge your reaction to see how you feel about him, or he just doesn't know what he wants.
If he jerks you around, be prepared to drop him like a hot potato.
|Thanks! on Nov 19, 2009 @ 11:51 pm|
Thanks for the advice. I'll keep you post on what happens! :)