Love over Career?

on Oct 11, 2011 @ 12:04 pm

I was reading an article today about Heather Morris- Britney on Glee who said, “I want to marry Taylor and have kids with him. I love acting, but if it affects my relationship, then I won’t continue doing it.” (to Fitness Magazine) 

Then, football player Brady Quinn pulled a similar move as his career took a backseat to his girlfriend Alicia Sacramone. 

What do you think of relationships before your career? How do you feel about this move? Is it something you've done or would (or would not) do? 


9 Replies

I did it on Oct 11, 2011 @ 12:41 pm

I quit uni to follow my heart (say it with me - awww). I later went back, and all I "suffered" was a few lost career years but gained invaluable life lessons and incredible experiences.

Listen, it's not for everyone. But putting relationships first is not automatically a throwback to the 1950s. Too many times it's career before relationships and what often happens is divorce, strained parenting, and broken hearts.

Careers can be rebuilt, revamped, redefined. Sometimes we're only talking about the difference between having a great career and an excellent career. Isn't "great" enough? I would argue that yes - it usually is.

You don't always get a second chance with relationships. I vote for love over corporate ladder.

awwwwww on Oct 11, 2011 @ 12:56 pm

mamaluv your post made me awww and smile :-)

I would chose love over career only if my love wasn't making me chose when he had a choice to not make me chose ... am I being too choosy? lol

In other words, I'd put him first if he had a valid reason for me to put him first. If he came into the relationship knowing about my career (example: acting) and now all of a sudden that we're "serious" he decides he can't handle my career and therefore wants me to give it up, I'd have a real problem about giving it up. You came into the relationship knowing what I do, you didn't have a problem then, and I loved the person who accepted my whole package. Now you want to take a bit of that package and throw it away because you're insecure? What else will you make me throw away next 'cuz of your insecurity? Will the next thing to discard be my parents or siblings 'cuz I'm too close with them? I would give up / sacrifice for the person who doesn't demand that of me.

But if there was a legit reason for me to leave my career (.e.g. us moving) and it's beyond both our control, and it's not something he's forcing me to do or something he can help ...then yes I'd chose him over my career for sure.

Hope I'm making sense...

Makeup Guru Emily
Hmm on Oct 11, 2011 @ 01:02 pm

"I would chose love over career only if my love wasn't making me chose when he had a choice to not make me chose ... am I being too choosy? lol"

I would have to agree with that statement becky. I'd want to choose love over career, not be forced to make that decision.

That being said, I think if something was super important (for example getting an amazing job in another city), that the other person in the relationship would at least try to make it work. I think a relationship has to be mature and serious enough for this to actually happen though...there's no point in choosing love over career if the love wasn't worth it...right? Haha. I don't know if what I said just made sense.

im kinda selfish lol on Oct 11, 2011 @ 01:11 pm

I'm a total career first kind of girl unfortunately but for me that makes me more confident I'll know I have the right guy when he makes me happier then my career does so choosing him over it wouldn't feel like I'm giving up something. More just starting a new kind of career (i.e. family).

I don't think you should have to give up either to do well but compromise is always needed. If you plan to work late hours every day and never see your significant then that's not fair to them. But if they don't support your ambition then they aren't being a good partner. Gotta meet in the middle somewhere

Love over Career on Oct 11, 2011 @ 08:28 pm

At this point in my life and at where I'm at, I don't think I could ever choose love over my career. However, I think marriage, especially if kids are involved is definitely grounds to delay or change your career, if you are choosing to solely because you feel it is what you want to do.

Right now, I am not ashamed to say that I am pretty selfish right now! There's a time and place for everything and everyone and when you are young and first starting out, putting lover over a career seems like a dangerous move for me.

That being said, I can imagine that if I found the right person and I was absolutely sure but it required a sacrifice, I might put my career on hold.


Undecided...sort of on Oct 12, 2011 @ 02:20 pm

I'm struggling with this right now! I graduate in May and have been going on a ton of interviews lately, none of which are in the same area as my boyfriend who is truly amazing. I know I would be miserable not being able to see him but at the same time I just got done with 7 years of college and have a lot of opportunities. Only time will tell. He has mentioned that he'd be willing to switch jobs based on where I go which has me a bit at ease...

If I had to decide today, I would choose career. I know I'd hate myself for settling with a job that isn't the best I can get right now.

@cjung on Oct 12, 2011 @ 04:45 pm

I think the most dangerous thing about being young and having your whole career ahead of you and also being in this position is the fact that if you do choose to go with love, you can grow to resent the person that you feel 'made' you give up your job.

I know that I would have such a problem if I was in your position but I think I'd go with career too.

Help. Job or relationship?? on Jun 30, 2013 @ 03:03 pm

I interviewed for a job about an hour and twenty minutes from my house. I discussed this with my boyfriend and he was excited for me and told me to go for it. Now I got the job and need to live closer to the job and he doesn't want me to take it. He says he is not interested in a part time relationship. This is a great job with a highly sought after employer. I am torn but these types of jobs are hard to come by. I am a career oriented person with a high drive to succeed. I can't understand why he can't support me!!

Love later on Jul 02, 2013 @ 12:02 pm

For me, career first! After too many bad relationship experiences, I've been forced to put myself first. I think once you build yourself, and your in the place you want to be then the 'right' person will come. Also, until you can be happy, confident with yourself, you will have insecurities in your love life. Ask yourself, where am i going? Then, who am I going with? If you ask these in the wrong order you're in trouble.

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