Marriage


Carolyn1974
on Aug 20, 2014 @ 03:48 am

After 16 years. How do you keep your marriage fresh?? Kids are frown up and outta house what do you do? How do you talk to one another?
 

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Radar Lover
good question!!! on Aug 20, 2014 @ 10:31 pm

I wish I knew that answer! Together for 19yrs and my eldest is just starting college. But we still have 3 more kids to go before we have to deal with this.
I hear it is really hard part of a relationship. Maybe start "dating" and re-discover each other. I bet there is a lot to learn since you both grew up while raising the kids. Maybe even start travelling. I am sure that you just need to find a new common ground and build up again.
Good luck!!!
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Carolyn1974
Will try on Aug 22, 2014 @ 10:42 am

Thanks good advise. It's hard as he works away and has always been goon about 9 outta 12 months it's different now and your right we grow up raising kids that's how we no each other. I think I'll try to plan a Cuba trip fo February.
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Radar Lover
:) on Aug 22, 2014 @ 05:51 pm

Good luck Sweetie. I wish all the best for the both of you.
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Tatdewar
Date on Aug 27, 2014 @ 01:02 am

Start dating again- do new activities together. Go to the sex store. Pick out lingerie together. Rent a hotel room and go on a 1 night stand. Read erotic fiction to get inspired. Cook together. Go to the fair- act like kids. Go park.
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joyjj7
Baby Steps, Hun Baby Steps. on Aug 30, 2014 @ 02:54 pm

A lot of married couples with kids get so preoccupied with the balance between work and the stages of their kids lives that they forget to make special time for each other. Then when the kids move out they realize they have become strangers and it can feel REALLY awkward. Starting communication slowly and initiating activities like morning coffee together on the porch or making movie plans can break the ice. You have to start dating each other again and be patient with growing together again. It took years to get to this point and it will take awhile to grow closer again. Many married couple end in divorce when they get to this point but it doesn't have to. Understanding the situation, how it got there what to do, and the desire to try will save any marriage. If it takes councelling, get councelling. If you were close before you can be close again.
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joyjj7
love your comment on Aug 30, 2014 @ 02:55 pm

Just read this after my reply. So true dear, you gotta start dating again. :)
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Tatdewar
Trip on Aug 31, 2014 @ 04:30 am

Trips always infuse passion back into a relationship!
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imfeehily
Travel on Aug 31, 2014 @ 06:29 pm

We love to schedule in as much travel as we can. Go out see new places. We have a 4 year old, so he takes up a lot of time but scheduled breaks from the daily rut really freshens things up.
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TaraHoock
Congrats on Sep 05, 2014 @ 07:48 pm

I would like to say congrats on staying together as long as you have in a world where divorce happens more than ever. Staying together and true is a big accomplishment. I have been married for 4 years and I can only hope we make it as long as you and then more after that. :)
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Red_rosie13
2 years on Sep 09, 2014 @ 03:29 pm

I'm sorry I don't have much advice for you, as I've only been married for 2 years, but I would say just take the time to remember everything you love about each other. Congrats on being married for 16 years!
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