Me and my boyfriend fight like cats! normal?


Anonymous
on Apr 01, 2015 @ 11:47 pm

I honestly believe me and my longterm, common-law, boyfriend, are truly involve. I do think of him as the person ill spend the rest of my life with (most times), and i know he feels the same way.  I have my insecurities where I get mad at certain things that i shouldn't be, but I've definitely gotten a lot better on areas i needed to work on, but he hasn't really. We argue a lot, he always needs to be right and its usually about stupid stuff where he can't even just man up and apologize to make me happy! Obviously i know i should be doing the same thing- but certain situations where I'm pretty adamant on him being wrong due to something he did really rubbed me the wrong way, he still won't apologize if he believes he did nothing wrong. Its just getting annoying how one sided our relationship can be sometimes and how he has no empathy in certain situations. We definitely have our ups and downs, but is this normal?! were getting to the point where we definitely need to be thinking of the future and if we should be staying together, should we be arguing the way we do and fighting like this if were meant to be? 
 


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chrissyann123
Me and my boyfriend on Apr 02, 2015 @ 12:35 am

I do not know how old you are. Or how long you have been with your boyfriend. Yes it is normal to have a argument once in a while. But I feel that if you are fighting all the time then something is just not right. You both need to learn to sit stay calm, talk things out, Try really hard to listen to each other and maybe come to compromise and come to a conclusion that will make both of you happy. Men and women are so different. Women like to express their feeling and get them out. Where many men have a hard time talking about how they feel , hold things more inside and I know it can be frustrating sometimes.

If you are meant to be together you will. It takes two people committed to the relationship to have a good marriage. If only one person is doing all the work, the relationship is one sided it probably will not come to a happy conclusion. Usually the one partner that is trying so hard to hold the relationship together is only going to be really unhappy. I think you are probably pretty young but please believe me put yourself first, love yourself and never let any man take you for granted. Because you truly deserve to be happy because life is very short and the years go by quickly. I hope I helped a little bit because believe me I have been there and done that and I can never get those wasted years back again. I wish you all the best and remember one door closes another one opens.
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danikillam
If it's bad enough... on Apr 02, 2015 @ 01:14 am

If it's bad enough that you have to ask a forum website about it, maybe consider couples therapy, or the single life.
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Kylee
Seek Help. on Apr 07, 2015 @ 06:44 pm

I think you should look into couples counselling, because fighting can really take a toll on both you and your relationship! Yes it is normal for couples to fight but if you feel like you are fighting every other day then I think you should definitely consider getting help to make things work. If you truly love each other then you will find a solution to stop your fighting or at least not to fight as much.

Best of luck to you both, I hope you find something that works for you.
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Chick2525
An honest opinion. on Apr 11, 2015 @ 12:21 pm

You need to think of yourself first. Are you happy? Do you see yourself spending your life with this person?

It take two people to make a relationship work. If you truly love one another, you will both make the effort. If he can not seem to put his selfish behaviour aside, I would think if this is really what you want to deal with. Remember, it's your life - you determine your own happiness. If anyone is turning that beautiful smile upside down, I suggest you remove them from your life. Life is too short to remain unhappy.

I hope this helps. Wishing you the best.
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barbarabelfry
Men on Apr 23, 2015 @ 11:00 am

It's the nature of the species. Men just can't or won't get along with women unless there's something in it for them. Can't live with them wish I could live without them.
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lovesaraanne
thoughts on Apr 23, 2015 @ 11:15 am

I agree with Chick2525 - if you are unhappy, then deep down, you will know what to do. I know how difficult it is to end a long-term relationship but sometimes thats what needs to happen - so that you can BOTH be happy, because you both deserve that.

If you're arguing about nothing - I'd say no big deal. People butt heads all the time. But if it's not so trivial, and getting in the way of the health and happiness of your relationship, I would suggest counselling.

I wouldn't necessarily say it's the nature of men in general. There are plenty of happy relationships out there (I can vouch for that) and perhaps this one can work out to be that way for the both of you :) It just takes time and effort on both parts!
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11kalf
Hmm on Apr 23, 2015 @ 05:21 pm

I think none of us will really be able to answer your question the best way possible. We don't know so much about you two. I would suggest maybe taking a break and seeing how you feel apart
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brooklingal77
Trouble on Apr 24, 2015 @ 08:43 am

Maybe do some soul searching, some alone time and re-think your relationship. None of know you personally but you don't want the arguing to continue if you decide children are in your future with this partner.
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