on Jul 19, 2013 @ 01:38 pm|
My guy and I are moving in together.
We were sort of talking about it, and then life gave us a few signs that it's the right time/thing to do.
No we're not engaged.
No, we're not expecting.
It's the next step in our relationship and we think we're ready for it.
Can you share some tips, tricks, insights, advice on moving in with someone for the first time? How do you tackle differing schedules, chores, etc?
|From Experience on Jul 19, 2013 @ 03:12 pm|
My bf and have been living together for two years. We moved in after only 10 months. When you move out, you definitely get to know the person--more than you think you already do! You need to figure out your finances, make a budget. I'm a full-time student and don't work that much, so we had to figure out who would pay what. Also, I made it clear to my bf when we moved out that I would not be alone in doing chores. He always does the laundry. That's "his" thing...mainly because I don't want to go down into the basement and talk to weird people in my building. We take turns cleaning, or if we're both home we do it together. It's all about TEAM work when you move out, but in my opinion it is also important to straighten out who does what. Other than that, if you're not couponing yet, START! I spent $500 on cleaning, laundry and hygiene products when we first moved. Today I get all of that for free with coupons. And lastly, before you completely lose me, start buying small things here and there before you make the move so that the purchases don't hit you hard in one shot!
|Also From Experience on Jul 22, 2013 @ 06:56 pm|
My boyfriend and I have been living together for almost 2 years. We have been dating for 2 and a half years. We moved in together shortly before our first year of being together. We help each other out with house chores, sometimes we slack off a bit, but it gets maintained enough to be in good living condition. We have moved a few times since living together, ranging from great places to terrible places that led to relationship problems for various reasons. We have a strong, committed, faithful relationship to one another and that is one thing that has helped us remain so close to each other. Some people realize that once living with someone the person is not who they thought they would be, in our case it made us stronger. Don't get me wrong, a relationship is a constant work in progress. You are going to fight a lot, disagree, but the main thing about a relationship is you can make things work with who YOU love, as long as you both put in the same effort the whole way through and never give up! Communication IS key by the way. Good luck!
|moving in with your man: my thoughts on Jul 22, 2013 @ 07:34 pm|
The only advice I have for both of you is pick your fights. Hug when you argue...bet you can't.
Laugh, joke and don't take life too seriously. k one more thing appreciate each other, say thank you for help, always take a few minutes to admire your partners efforts...they will love you more for it. thank you for asking for advice, you are a strong woman.
remember to smile, even if it's through your teeth..lol
|Living together... on Jul 23, 2013 @ 10:01 am|
Don't go to bed angry. This is very hard, but it's good advice. Getting things off your chest when they are bugging you instead of letting them fester. Discuss issues rather than fighting about things. Fights can't always be avoided but rational discussions get far more accomplished than yelling matches.