My bf is lazy

on Aug 02, 2012 @ 08:57 am

He has gained 60 lbs in a year. How do I get him to move more???

5 Replies

I'm not to sure :( on Aug 02, 2012 @ 11:03 am

All I can think is try to push him a little hard, maybe talk to him about this issue, But don't push him to hard cause he might start to get upset or have his feelings hurt...

Bf Lazy on Aug 02, 2012 @ 11:21 am

Is it that he's lazy or could it be something else?

60 pounds is a lot to gain in just one year, is there something else going on? I think it's also important to address the emotional issues when it comes to weight gain because a lot of the time the weight is just a symptom. Also, is he aware of the weight gain and his lifestyle change? Many time people aren't even aware of the change. If it were me, I would want someone to say something but everyone is different and this may not be the best option for your bf.

If you live together and you do shopping/cooking etc. then why not just get rid of the "bad" foods in the house and start cooking very health conscious meals? Or, why not casually mention that you'd like to start doing more active things together? Go for walks, hikes, play sports or take a class together.

together on Aug 02, 2012 @ 11:30 am

There's always a reason behind weight gain that goes past simple laziness. Often an emotional cause underlies physical weight gain. Weight gain doesn't feel good for the person gaining the weight. You
might perceive his inactivity as laziness, but perhaps he's emotionally
down for whatever reason which is causing him to have a sort of "give
up" attitude about his appearance? Also, weight gain is a depressive cycle. Something happens to emotionally trigger overeating, laziness (output of mild depression?) which makes us gain weight which depresses us more, causes more over eating, etc. A horrible cycle, really. It's extremely hard to get out of the cycle but it can be done.

Once we've gained weight, the weight feels insurmountable, which contributes to the depressive cycle, makes us gain even more weight, depresses us more, and the vicious cycle continues.

If you're healthy, you know that its not insurmountable. You know that
with effort and discipline he can do it. The point is, he doesn't know
that. Telling him isn't enough, but if you do it together, it'll be a
fun challenge, something you can do together that will help him and who
knows might bring you even closer! Instead of pushing him and putting the ownership on him to make changes,
why not do it together? It's extremely hard to follow a diet and
exercise routine alone, so why not come up with your own eating regime
together, find physical activities you both like doing and do them
together? Don't keep any junk food in the house, keep only healthy
snacks available, have meals together, play sports together, go for bike
rides / walks together, etc.

These are just my two cents. Good luck!

Ali de Bold
Agree with Alexandra on Aug 02, 2012 @ 11:39 am

That's a lot of weight to gain in one year. Has he been to the Doctor? It might not just be laziness. It's really important to get a proper diagnosis before figuring out what to do about it. You can't fix it if you don't know the cause.

Doctor on Aug 02, 2012 @ 12:10 pm

I have to agree to gain 60 pounds in one year could be a medical issue.Try talk to him about seeing his doctor they will do some blood work to see if there are any issues that are making him gain weight.

Also try do more activities together as simple as taking a nightly walk together.Try add more vegetables and fiber into his diet.

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