on May 20, 2010 @ 02:20 am|
so my boyfriend of 7 months and I were hanging out and he initiated the sex. I got on top and we started going at it. It was about a few minutes into it and then i hear snoring wtf?!?! So I look at him to make sure this isn't what I'm hearing and sure enough he was sleeping and snoring! I watched him for a little bit to prove to myself that he was indeed sleeping, then I said hey are you sleeping?!?! He opens his eyes gets angry and says I know what I was doing what are you talking about? I said then what was that noise you were making? he says I was thinking of something funny. I said you're a liar so I got off and went to the bathroom. I come back in after a few minutes and hes snoring in the bedroom again! I say you know what I'm leaving, he jumps up asks why and I say are you kidding me? Are you seriously going to ask me that question? i leave and when i get home i start to think. This was pretty embarrasing. was I so boring that he fell asleep? I mean you've got to be on the verge of death to fall asleep during sex. on top of it all he gets mad at me and lies about falling asleep! we were laying next to each other for an hour and he never once fell asleep, and he was the one who initiated the sex and he fell asleep?!?!? I am really embarassed so I havent spoken to him since earlier today. what should i think?
|It happens... on May 20, 2010 @ 05:47 am|
... but that's not an excuse. I have myself fallen asleep during sex because I was exhausted.
I have to wonder if your bf's angry reaction was covering for HIS embarrassment? He's probably feeling like a pretty big idiot right now. I wouldn't blame it on you.
This is going to come out all wrong, but I have heard that guys say "even not-so-hot sex is still sex!" Bottom line - they wanna get busy whether you've got porn star moves or are extremely shy in bed. I'm not saying you're not good at it! (that was the part I worried would come out wrong) What I mean is, he didn't fall asleep because of you. He fell asleep because of him.
Think over your relationship - is it otherwise worth working out? Or were you already drifting apart and this is a big cue to move on?
|eek on May 20, 2010 @ 11:52 am|
Sorry to hear about your fight! It totally sucks that he would fall asleep but honestly, I don't think you should take it too personally! If this were a reoccurring event I'd be concerned but since it is a one-time thing, I don't think it is reason enough to break up. You do need to talk to him about it and hopefully you can work it out. Good luck! :)
Ali de Bold
|You're not the one who should be embarrassed on May 20, 2010 @ 03:06 pm|
He should be - and he owes you an apology.
|No excuse on May 21, 2010 @ 01:33 pm|
There is no excuse for that!
It doesn't even make sense to me how he COULD fall asleep during sex, I don't believe that is possible unless there is something seriously wrong. If it keeps happening, obviously you two need to look into it, but it just seems like he was being a jerk, for some unknown reason.
He DEFINIETLY owes you an explaination, and like Ali said, an apology.
It was not your fault, what could you possibly have done wrong anyway??
|wtf??? on May 21, 2010 @ 10:41 pm|
I mean I've been thinking the same things and asking myself the same questions, how in the world could you fall asleep while I'm making love to you? I told him I would have to be on the verge of death or drugged to fall asleep during sex. I mean it boggles my mind that he could fall asleep. He ofcourse apologized and told me it wasn't me that made him fall asleep, it was because he hasn't slept in days and hasn't been feeling well and had a few beers the day he initiated the sex with me. Regardless I still feel like an idiot and I just cannot understand how someone could fall asleep during sex, and what looked like a deep sleep because he was snoring!!! I don't think I'll ever understand or believe his reason for this. Now I don't know what to do or what to think
|Come on people........... on May 22, 2010 @ 01:57 pm|
falling asleep is soooo involuntary, especially when you're exhausted. So no, she shouldn't be mad at him for that. God, it definitely HAS happened to me. Embarrassingly enough, when I was on the receiving end of oral sex ROTFLMFAO You could say the same thing, really. How could any woman fall asleep during oral sex? And that *could* make a guy feel rather emasculated, you know. We laughed our asses off about it. The next day. He didn't suddenly wake me up with a 'You've insulted my manhood' spiel. He realized I was very tired and let me just sleep.
Your guy may have initially reacted that way because he suddenly woke up and realized, 'Oh my god, I was bonking my gf and I fell asleep!' and probably felt embarrassed, not to mention the fact that he suddenly woke up and had you all angry at him that he feel asleep in the middle of boffing you. A lot of guys would feel like that makes them 'unmanly', make them feel so un macho. I find it hilarious, actually LOL I probably would have taken some video of it and made some commentary over top!
Really, is your self worth so tied up with sex that you'd dump him over this?? That's not love. Try understanding. The guy said he was exhausted. Sex can be very relaxing. If you're already wiped out, it could be just the thing to put you over the egge into sawing logs, especially if you're in the passive role at the time. I'd say show some emotional maturity and get over it. Sex is supposed to be fun, you should even get a laugh out of it. Laugh this off and let it be one of those 'Remember when....?' things you guys continue to laugh about in the future. If you can't handle this, how do you think you'd ever handle marriage in the future? Let me tell you, that's when a person's shortcomings ALL come to the forefront. And believe me, you have yours too. As I do. As every woman does.
God, I'd hate to think how you'd react if he farted while doing the deed! hahahahahaha Divorce! LOL
|Positive spin.. on May 23, 2010 @ 05:13 am|
Is it possible that you are such a tiger you wore him out? :)
|Oh, well that's different.. on May 25, 2010 @ 12:32 pm|
Well if he hadn't slept for days and was drunk, then I think that's a bit of a different story..
|Couldn't have said it better myself (Satojoko)!! on May 25, 2010 @ 04:09 pm|
To get a guys perspective I asked one of my coworkers for his opinion. He's in a longterm very committed relationship (soon to be married) and he agrees - this can totally happen!! So rest assured, this is not a slight against you, and it has happened to many guys out there (and I'm sure girls too as Satojoko said). There are some things in life that are just meant to be laughed off, and this strikes me as one of them. If anything these potentially embarrassing situations should make you closer to each other.
"Sex is supposed to be fun, you should even get a laugh out of it. Laugh
this off and let it be one of those 'Remember when....?' things you
guys continue to laugh about in the future."
--Completely agree!! This really should be something you can laugh off...and if you think about it, it is funny :-)
"God, I'd hate to think how you'd react if he farted while doing the deed! hahahahahaha Divorce! LOL"
--Made me laugh out loud at my desk, at work... LOL
|Yikes! on May 28, 2010 @ 11:39 pm|
He must have been pretty exhausted to fall asleep in the middle of it! Anyways, if you thought the whole thing was embarrassing, just imagine how he must have felt! Personally, if it happened to me I think I'd be pretty annoyed, too, but.... I think you totally over-reacted. You should have just let him sleep and then talked to him about it in the morning.