on May 10, 2008 @ 12:34 am|
I just started dating him recently. I know him for years. He used to be my professor for years, and also a mentor figure.. and we're seeing each other off and on now.. and.. he is so amazingly wonderful both intellectually and physically, but he's much older, and he's on a 'break' in his marriage.
I'm happy.. I'm just sad that this might not be forever and that it has to be all hush hush. But he really is one of the most awesome guys I've met.
Ali de Bold
|Oh dear on May 10, 2008 @ 01:06 am|
I'm an insomniac. Sorry to be awake to rain on your parade. It's awesome that you are happy and I don't think an age difference is that big of a deal (depending on how much of a gap there is and maturity, life circumstances, etc) but the whole "break from his marriage" is a bad sign.
Let him work out that relationship before you carry on any further. He may end up working it out or he may not. Either way you being in the middle of it means you are only going to end up hurt. If you are meant to be together you will be, but don't let yourself be the "other woman". "Break" doesn't mean "divorced".
There are loads of awesome available guys out there.
|uhm on May 10, 2008 @ 03:38 am|
i agree with mC hey...if you don't mind me asking, is the age gap like "sister older brother" or "daughter dad" or older?(Iv learnt to never ask a woman their age he he)...when emotions are involved it's always a tricky situation.have you sat him down and asked where you two are heading for?you sound young and you'd want to get married one day and by the looks of things,he isn't going that route very soon.what happens after the "break" in his marriage or what happens if the break gets "resolved".i think you need to look much deeper into this, just to save you from any misunderstandings.communicate communicate communicate...you have to!let us know how things go,always here to chat: x x x best of luck with the new guy tho
|He got the better end of the stick on May 10, 2008 @ 01:43 pm|
No matter which way i look at this, the professor is getting the better end of the stick. I am interested to know what is so fascinating about him that you don't mind his age. I mean, I have seen lots of girls on plentyoffish and most girls rather date someone their age.
|awww thanks everyone!! on May 11, 2008 @ 12:08 am|
yea i'm definitely a bit distanced i find.. it's kind of a large brother-sister gap.. we're 15 years apart.. and i guess i jumped for him because i'm coming out of a bad relationship that lasted 2 difficult years and also because he's so gentlemanly in comparison.. so he might just be rebound material. you're right i have to be totally guarded..
thanks so much for this helpful advice and support.. :)