on Jun 26, 2013 @ 02:15 pm|
Hi ladies! As a single lady who has been enjoying taking the time to figure out what I need and what makes me happy I'm finally ready to start dating again. My only problem is I have no idea where to meet men! There aren't any men to meet in my profession and I'm not really into the bar scene. Majority of my friends are in relationships or only know men who are currently in relationships so a "set up" doesn't exactly work either.
Now I do go to the gym frequently, however I only go to spin classes so I don't think I'm all that approachable at the gym. So my question is, have any of you ladies tried online dating??? What site did you use? Was it worth putting yourself out there for?
Thanks for the feedback, any ideas or suggestions on how to meet my prince charming are very welcomed!
|Re: online dating on Jun 26, 2013 @ 07:22 pm|
I think it's great that you waited until the moment was right for YOU to begin dating again. I know of many friends who have tried online dating. Most unfortunately did not have good outcomes. It's pretty hard to know someone just from talking with them online. They can turn out to be someone completely different than they say! If you decide to try it, make sure you meet them in a public place as soon as possible and take your time getting to know them. Don't waste your time talking to them for months before meeting..Two of my friends ended up "going out" with married men... One however did meet someone online from a different country and they ended up getting married and having a new baby! It was definitely the right decision for her. Just take your time, don't look too hard for someone. When the moment is right that someone will find you. Weigh your options in regards to how to meet new people and make the right decision for you. For example, if you don't normally go to bars to meet new people then don't start. Look for people that have the same interests as you and don't settle for less! Good luck! :)
|Never done it myself... on Jun 27, 2013 @ 10:20 am|
But I have tons of friends who are on the online dating scene. I'll say that they've had a lot of dud dates, but some of them have been really great too. Obviously, just be careful if you do go out with someone online, I don't need to tell you the whole public place schpiel haha I've heard some really creepy stories from my friends who have profiles online, just the messages they get and stuff.
But online dating is such a big thing now, and I don't think it has the same stigma as it used to. As the world changes with technology, the dating scene is going to change along with it!
I'm a pretty big partier so that's where I meet most of the guys I date, or through friends, but as you mentioned that's not really your scene and your friends have married friends. Not sure how outgoing you are also, but I met my last boyfriend at the grocery store...I saw him looking at me and he smiled, so I just casually pushed my cart next to him and said "Hi", and we started talking. I'm sure a lot of the guys you pass everyday want to talk to you, but most of them are way too shy to say Hi, let alone ask you out. But if you give them an in and let them know you're interested, they'll take control and throw down their game. They're just as afraid of rejection as we are; a girl's gotta lend a hand sometimes!
But I'd definitely say try online dating out, it's a great way to find someone with common interests, and in the end it can't hurt, right?
|Great tips! on Jun 27, 2013 @ 10:40 am|
Wow thanks for the heads up ladies! I guess I will definitely have to tread lightly with this online dating thing. I must admit I LOVE the idea of meeting someone the old fashioned way still. LissaG I love your story of meeting someone at the grocery store! I envy people like you!!
|Put myself out there on Jun 27, 2013 @ 10:41 am|
I suppose I have to just start putting myself out there more now, even if its a tad uncomfortable at first!
|It gets easier! on Jun 27, 2013 @ 02:27 pm|
Trust me, I was always shy about approaching guys, but then I realized that they probably feel the same...if not worse, because when a guy hits on a girl there's a good chance she is going to get totally offended or grossed out and turn him down hard (girls are so mean sometimes haha!). But what guy wouldn't love getting a flirty "Hey, what's up?" from a cute girl! You don't even have to ask them out, just strike up a little conversation, and if they take it and run with it you know they're interested. They're more likely to have the confidence to ask you out if you're the one to make the first move :)
|It can work on Jun 27, 2013 @ 02:45 pm|
I've done it and I met one really good guy on there. It didn't work out but we are very good friends to this very day. Other than that one guy though I've still met guys in person as opposed to online. Even though I've been out with guys through online dating nothing long term has ever worked out.
That being said I do know people who've met online and they're now married.
I'd say give it a try. It doesn't hurt and you never know who you'll meet. You can usually get a discounted rate for joining for the first time. See what it's like and if you don't like it then you don't have to renew it. Just make sure you cancel your renewal if you don't like it because most will renew automatically. Trust me, that sucks.