on Jul 12, 2012 @ 07:30 am|
Do you guys believe oral sex is needed every-time you have sex??
|why not? on Jul 12, 2012 @ 02:05 pm|
No but it sure would be fun! LOL
|depends on Jul 13, 2012 @ 01:06 pm|
I think it depends on you and your partner. if you/they can't orgasm without oral, then it seems like it would be necessary. If you can orgasm without it, then no.
|Everyone is different on Jul 13, 2012 @ 03:52 pm|
Everyone enjoys different techniques in bed so while it's not necessarily "necessary" it may be a way for you or your partner to get in the mood or enjoy the experience even more. Just be open and talk about the things the two of you like!
|in general, no on Jul 13, 2012 @ 04:10 pm|
My answer is No, it's not necessary every time. However I do want to explain my answer.
Every person has different triggers for what gets them aroused. It's also true that many people have hangups when it comes to certain sexual activities. These hangups can be as "minor" as feeling uncomfortable about trying something due to personal feelings of morality/modesty to more major issues such as extreme discomfort or a history of sexual abuse that involved a specific sexual act.
In a loving relationship, both partners should feel comfortable enough to request certain sexual favours (let's assume we are talking about monogamous, legal requests - 3somes and prostitution, etc not part of this discussion for the moment). The person being asked to perform the favour should be open enough to trying it at least once unless of course they have a serious reason for not wanting to. If the act being requested is something that you don't prefer but are not entirely opposed to, then let it be a "special occasion" treat you give your partner.
No one should ever be expected to perform sexual favours that they dislike - this is why I say that oral sex during every encounter is NOT necessary. But do try to keep an open mind that if it's extremely important to your partner, refusing every time to do this might put a wedge in your relationship. Your partner may feel self conscious about the rejection, and in turn be less inclined to do the things you enjoy in bed.
Relationships are a two way street. The bedroom is just another part of that street, so keep the lines of communication open and don't say No just on principle every time, while not allowing yourself to be pressured into saying Yes every time either.
|Not Necessary! on Jul 16, 2012 @ 05:31 pm|
No, I do not think it's necessary - in MY relationship. But, perhaps some couples need to do oral every time, that's honestly up to them! It really all depends on the sexual desires.