on Sep 27, 2010 @ 11:05 pm|
A non believer in long distance love my whole life, I recently met someone amazing who lives overseas. It's been nothing short of amazing but surviving those skype conversations that lead to immense "I miss you" and "I want you to be here with me" is difficult.
I know it's insane and difficult and there are plenty of men on this side of the ocean, but I believe that this is all worth it and we will live in the same area code eventually.
For now I would really love a word of advice, past experiences and stories, have you ever been in a long distance relationship?
|It can work on Sep 27, 2010 @ 11:53 pm|
I had a friend in England who corresponded with someone in Canada for years they eventually met married and had three kids and all now live in England.The long distance was very draining and they had to save to meet one another and it was meant to be,they were both very much in love and it worked.So that is the one example I know that worked.But now keep in mind its not always a happy ending.Good Luck hope it works for you!
|*putting up my hand on Sep 28, 2010 @ 06:23 am|
I was in a LDR with my now-husband. Granted, it was not overseas. He lived in Western Canada and I lived in central Canada. But since we were both dirt poor and these were the days before telephone rates were affordable (I'm not that old - affordable phone rates are young:) ), it may as well have been. We lasted about 1 year before we decided it was time to live in the same province. I moved to him and a few short months later we tied the knot.
It's doable if your love is strong and you're willing to sacrifice to make it work. In a way, you have to be even more sure of your connection than the "easy" road of living in the same city; however, you are faced with unique difficulties. It's hard to know a person properly when you can't see them on a day-to-day basis. The good news is, there is no good reason why you shouldn't give it a try.
Best of luck to you!
|Me too on Sep 30, 2010 @ 03:11 pm|
I am one of those it definately worked for! I got out of a very bad relationship about 4yrs ago and had completely gone off men. I was paranoid to the point of crazy, I expected the absolute worst in all men and my main goal was to protect myself from psychos (in my books everyone was a psycho until proven otherwise). Because of this I wouldn't even give any guy a chance to talk to me outside of work, let alone date.
I was introduced to someone who was living in UK (i live in canada). I didn't want to talk to him either but my mom convinced me to at least talk to him because should he turn out to be a psycho, I can just change my phone and email (I'm an expert at changing my phone and email).
After much convincing I talked to him, and we clicked....it was freaky how we clicked! It wasn't even a "click" it was more a "lock & throw away key" lol. After the first two conversations I felt like I met my soulmate, which freaked the crap outta me and I stopped talking to him for a month or so. He's one of the very few people I know who bothered to look below my surface to the real me.
Long story short, we've recently gotten married... He's the best thing that ever happened to me. I wish I had many more lifetimes because I don't feel like one's going to be enough to spend with him.. corny I know which is why i'm posting as "anonymous" ;-) But i mean it..
So to summarize, if he wasn't long distance, I probably wouldn't have ever talked to him and would have ended up missing something life changing.