|.. on Sep 08, 2016 @ 12:55 am|
This is really tough situation to be faced with. Firstly, you don't have to accept that behaviour and there are ways to get away from it. Look into local women's shelter services which often offer free counselling regarding abusive relationships. You can also get support from Children's Services (even CAS can be supportive and helpful.) You can go to court, get legal custody advice and apply for a court order. They also offer mediation services. Arrange to exchange the child at a public place or with someone you trust in an effort to have as minimal contact with him as possible. And if you feel that you or your child's safety is at risk, call the police. No one has a right to abuse you or your child.
|. on Sep 08, 2016 @ 01:46 pm|
I am so sorry to hear that you're finding yourself in this situation. Please know that whatever choices you make, there are people out there who care and will support you. That being said - if there is physical and verbal abuse happening towards you by the father of your child, there is a possibility that the same could happen to your child. Being a teacher, my advice would be to contact your local CAS (Children's Aid Society) and ask for support services. The nature of CAS is not to remove children from their families, but to work with them to keep the child with their families in a healthy and constructive environment. They can help you to seek counselling for yourself, your child, and even your child's father - if he's willing. If he isn't, you can open a report on him to CAS if you fear that he will have a negative impact on your child. If you fear retribution from him, you can contact CAS anonymously and they can give you advice on what to do without having to give your information. It all depends on what you decide to do.
But please know, at the end of the day, that everyone deserves to live with dignity, respect, and a feeling of safety. Whatever consequences you might fear by speaking up - it isn't worth suffering in silence. You've taken the first steps by opening up here. That means you're strong! You can break free from the cycle. Just don't feel you have to do it alone. Use the support systems around you and I promise it can get better. All the best to you and your child <3