please help me!

on Feb 02, 2009 @ 01:29 pm

My ex and i broke up a coupke of months ago. Things has ended very well, through out the days he started getting meanier and more aggressive and it wasn't funny. He would curse at me and say the worst things ever. There are times he made me crying and just hurt my feeling so horrible. And i think that things are just ending so bad, i don't want us ending up hating each other for the rest of our lives. He broke a promise he made to me saying how he is always going to be there no matter wat forever when i need help. and guess wat he isnt here and i went to the gyno and found out i have the high risk of hpv and i have cancerous cells already. I just want to start a convo with him wiouth any fights breaking out and just to try to end thing on a good note. do u have any idea on how i can do that or start it?

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helep me please on Feb 02, 2009 @ 01:31 pm

by the way.... i wanna be the bigger person to end this and make it right... i don't want to seem like a coward and let him walk al over me

Who broke up with Who? on Feb 02, 2009 @ 02:13 pm

I've been there and done horrible things... I broke up with my ex, but when I found out that she moved on really quickly I was very very bad to her...

I need to know the flow on how the break-up came about, and when did you notice the flip in attitude.

My ex and I are on very very good terms now... something I thought I'd never be able to do with an Ex-girlfriend... I have tips, and tricks that may come in handy...

Hopefully everything goes well with your cells...

he broke up with me on Feb 02, 2009 @ 03:27 pm

well it started happening i guess when he started talking to this knew girl and everything is horrible since i found out. he keeps yelling at me and wat not. so i say mean things back. he curses my life out still, he says that she is the sexiest thing he ever saw in forever. saying he never loved me. he has also threatend me. he broke with me saying it isn't the right time, but then he moved on right away to someone new. i don't get it. can u tell me ur tricks and tips? i would like to talk to him soon

why in the word..... on Feb 02, 2009 @ 06:11 pm

would you want to even talk to him at the moment. He is always yelling
at you and saying mean things. He even threatened you and said that he
never loved you. Why is ending things in peace for between the two of
you so important?? Not everyone who breaks up has to remain friends.
I'd back off for the moment and the day will come that your paths will
cross again. Be the big person and leave him alone and start taking care of yourself.

Things with my ex ended a little over a year ago...the breakup wasn't too bad but I refused to contact him for anything. Well just yesterday he sent me an email to see how I'm doing etc...and everything is cool between us now.

Also does he know about your HPV...if not he should be informed
immediately...cause maybe he gave it to you. He should also be careful
not to pass the virus to someone else. You should definitely follow up
with your gyno.

Good Luck

ooppps on Feb 02, 2009 @ 06:12 pm

My above topic should say Why in the world.....

I hate that there is no edit button arghhhhh

Sam... on Feb 02, 2009 @ 06:32 pm

out of curiosity...why were you very very bad to your ex when you found out that she moved on really quickly?? Obviously you were angry...but why??

hm.. on Feb 02, 2009 @ 06:37 pm

he does know about the hpv, he saw the results too, this was before things got bad i found out. i told him he will go infect others but he isn'tlistening. so i gave up. i guess im etter off leaving him alone but he told me he wants me out his life for good and never ever wants to contact me, cuz with this girl he has only been with for a week he said they made big plans to be together for a long time in the future and that upset me so much.
plus i only became mad at him after he started crap with me. i was defending myself instead of letting him walk all over me

respect his wishes on Feb 02, 2009 @ 06:48 pm

If he wants you out of his life then this is what you have to do. You need to be strong and stop trying to mend your friendship with someone who does not deserve it. If you really think about you really want to be friends with somebody who treats you like this. Most ppl would not. Don't waste your's not worth it. Move forward and don't look back!!

perhaps... on Feb 02, 2009 @ 08:28 pm

Not to answer for Sam ... and not that i support this behaviour (behaving bad to ex's when they move on, because i've been on the receiving end of this behaviour and its not nice) .... but i think i understand the feelings behind it, regardless that its very undignified to behave like that. i would imagine that the side that didn't move on feels betrayed.

He/she probably feels that...

right now i don't mean anything to you, and if you can move on and forget me so fast, i probably never meant anything to you. I wasted years of my life on you, while all along i meant nothing, i'm suffering over you because of our shared history and the memories, while you're moving on because our shared past means nothing and i'm completely forgettable. all the promises and each of the memories were lies because if there was a hint of truth to them, if i meant anything at all to you, you wouldn't have been able to forget me and move on so fast.

I imagine feelings of betrayal and resentment would arise... correct me if i'm wrong

its the fact... on Feb 02, 2009 @ 09:03 pm

it is the fact that he made promises and we were fine and wat not. then he goes off and finds some trampy girl to be with sooo quick. i feel left out in the dark like i don't know how to get past this so quick. he did betray me and i dont want to end up hating him in the worse way possible. everything is just so confusing to me

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