prego scare


Anonymous
on Jul 24, 2012 @ 11:55 am

had a pregnancy scare a few days ago

evenutally told bf and he went crazy on me. 

he got so angry.. 

kind afeel a bit scared of him. 

is this normal?
 


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mamaluv
no it is not normal on Jul 24, 2012 @ 12:31 pm

It is NOT normal in a healthy relationship for the (almost) daddy-to-be to freak out and become angry.

It IS normal for them to worry or express concern, but if he loves you, he needs to grow the hell up and realize it takes two to tango.

There are some boyfriends who rely on their girlfriend's birth control to avoid pregnancy, but that is not 100% even when taken correctly every single time. But sadly there are also girls out there who will attempt to become pregnant on purpose (or fake it) in order to hang onto their BF. Not suggesting you are one of them :)

So either your boyfriend is acting immaturely or there's something else going on at the same time. Has there been trouble in your relationship in general lately?
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Bren
Be careful on Jul 24, 2012 @ 12:31 pm

Well no he shouldn't get angry...It takes two to get pregnant!He should have been supportive I can understand if he gets nervous and scared.But for you to say he got so angry and you felt scared of him is not a normal thing...

Make sure you are taking reliable birth control measures to be safe.You do not want to get pregnant if your boyfriend is going to react that way.You may also want to be careful if your boyfriend is displaying anger actions this may not be a one time thing..Good Luck :)
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Ali de Bold
Concerned on Jul 24, 2012 @ 12:45 pm

I get him being freaked out in a oh wow I'm not ready to be a Dad kind of way, but freaking out so that you are afraid of him is completely different. I think you need to clarify: were you afraid for your safety? If so, this is not a man you should be with on any level. You should never fear for your safety in a relationship.
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Anonymous
REPLY on Jul 24, 2012 @ 12:48 pm

@
mamaluv:

So either your boyfriend is acting immaturely or there's something else going on at the same time. Has there been trouble in your relationship in general lately?

Well there's been other little things thats been happening, we're just not spending enough time together like we used to.
I told him its not always about spending money to enjoy ourselves we can go out for a walk to the park, pack a few fruits and snacks etc..
But its seems its all about his friends lately, spending time with them.
I have knee problems so, I try to avoid doing much sporty things and he knows that, still he insists that I go to a a sport game with him and his friends and play, I tell him why I can;t go and he still insists on being selfish and not wanting to hang out with his friends or double date with his best friend and girlfriend.
Frankly his best friend and I don't get on, and for now, I refuse to be in his company unless I really have to.
Whenever its my bf and me and his best friend, its like all they want to do is talk talk about silly stuff and im just there left out the conversation as usual.
He knows I know he doesnt like me.
I've tried to put my differences aside but its not working.

With the pregnancy scare happening just a few days ago.
Just kinda on edge with him.

Plus hes liking all these - big ol booties on fb pages and his friends are making so much jokes about have anyone sent this to his lady..

its so annoying..
why do guys have to do that..
makes me look like a total idoit to his friends and family.

what should i say.

i think its time we spoke about this. just dont know how to put it without sound like an infact.

any ideas
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SeeWan
Not normal on Jul 24, 2012 @ 01:20 pm

I understand your boyfriend not wanting to be a daddy yet and a pregnancy scare is never fun. But for him to go crazy and angry on you and to get you scared is totally wrong.

It almost seems like he is the immature one. The responsible thing would have been to figure this out and not get angry and crazy. He should have taken on the responsibility and be a man.

Also he seems to be inconsiderate with the condition of your knees, he should think of things you and his friends can do together instead of all the sporty stuff.

I think you should be honest to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. Sorry I really hope things work out for you.
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AlexJC
Selfish on Jul 24, 2012 @ 01:22 pm

Sounds like he is being very selfish. He isn't being considerate of your feelings at all and to blow up at you for a pregnancy scare isn't fair or right.

Decide what you want in the future and think about whether or not he can give it to you. Just judging from your description, he doesn't seem like a very stable, mature, respectful or generally nice guy, making you feel like an idiot is never right.

Has he changed? Has your relationship changed? Do you think it is salvageable or should you move on maybe?
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Anonymous
rely on Jul 24, 2012 @ 01:42 pm

@
alexjc:

Just a tad.. He has a bit.
I guess he's stressed.
He's buying a home at the moment(a flat).
Im having no input for now because I'm out of a job.
So fingers crossed soon I'll get a job.

I don't if thats whats stressing him out more.
I do think we can work it out.
I just hated that look in his eyes really, when I told him I thought i was expecting.
Thank goodness I aint,
If it was up to him I would abort there and then becuase its not the right time.
I know that.
Hes acting as if I wanted this to happen.

I am gonna try push this aside and hope we can move pass this and be strong like we was before.



@
seewan:

Thanks for all you said.
I will take that on board all you said and I will try tell him how I feel.



THANK YOU ALL FOR YOU ADVICE..
VERY MUCH APPRECIATED.
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