Question about sex


Anonymous
on Jun 12, 2016 @ 02:53 pm

I hope this post is okay
But I'm curious - my husband and I debate often if we do the deed enough. I think we do but he doesn't. I would say we get to about 2 times a week. I'd like to hear what some other chicks think and see if we are average or under average.

Again hope this is okay to post .... I saw a post the other day (pertaining to sex) and it makes me nervous to post this.
 

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jujusamples
it's Okay on Jun 12, 2016 @ 04:16 pm

@anoymous - it's okay, there was a comment from admin on the last post saying it is okay as long as it's not graphic and not offensive. I think you are just asking a question regarding sex and sex is a normal topic IMO.

So to answer your questions, I think it all depends on the couple. When my husband and I went through a rough patch before we got married. He told me to hold off on the sex so we could think clearer with our heads. He told me sex brings a lot of emotions and it interferes with our decision making. (this was before we got married) Then after we got married, I was going through medical problems which the medication causes me to have a low sex drive. We both talked it through with a counselor and he is okay with and will be patient until I get better. Sex is an important part of a relationship but so is communication and understanding towards one another.

So to make a long story short, I believe 2 times a week is pretty normal but if your husband is not okay with it than you could talk it through with him to come up with a happy medium. Remember, you need to be happy as well. I knew a couple that just set a date each time of the week, that way they don't argue about it. Just whatever works for the both of you as a couple. :)
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jcb75
^^ Great advice on Jun 12, 2016 @ 08:01 pm

I don't think there's a right amount or a wrong amount to have sex. Whatever works for you as a couple is the "right amount"
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wonderwhatif
. on Jun 13, 2016 @ 12:15 am

I think normal with a long term relationship or marriage was said to be anywhere from once every two weeks to once a week, so it's average! That being said, it sounds like maybe your husband has a higher sex drive than you.

I have a similar problem in that my sex drive is higher than my husband's. Just make sure you communicate a lot, so that he isn't left feeling bitter or unwanted, as I find it's easy to feel a little unloved if you have the urge and the other person doesn't.

Make sure he's aware that he can also attend to himself without feeling guilty, haha. But just communicate a lot and learn to find a balance that works for you both!
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Anonymous
Hmm on Jun 26, 2016 @ 08:49 pm

When I was in a relationship, engaged, after 3 years of being together. We were doing it every other night, if not every night. Aside from the 6 weeks he was away for work. And when we were having a rough patch we were down to twice a week. But when we were physically together, it was as often as we could. But him working 12 hour days plus a 2 hour commute, killed the physical aspect of the relationship for a short time. Basically, it depends on your daily life, what fits your schedules, are the work hours crazy? Are either of you too tired at the end of the day to have sex. Medications, stress, weight issues can all affect sex drive.

Sex should be based on love, respect, trust and really good communication. Also, I find that men will start to act weird after a FEW DAYS of no "physical activities"...funky moods, maybe a bit shorter tempers... Just odd all around... And it's usually due to lack of sex. If that happens every few days... Then twice a week is barely cutting it. But then again, it varies from couple to couple. Sometimes couples sex drives don't match up. She could be too high, he could be average... Or one side is too low...etc

It's good you guys can talk about it. That's a very good start. Hopefully you both find your happy medium. And neither party is left unsatisfied. Sex should be when you both truly connect. It's all starts with good communication.
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jesscherrington
. on Jun 27, 2016 @ 01:38 am

I don't think there is an average you should feel that you need to meet when it comes to sex with your partner.

If you only have sex once a month vs everyday, it shouldn't matter.

But having said that, I feel like it depends on the relationship and how long the relationship has been.

Don't feel like you have to meet the expectations of societal goals.
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Angelwingsx2
Question about Sex on Jun 29, 2016 @ 07:40 am

That is an excellent question and I think ,there is a lot of factors to take in consideration before answering this.Is there any small children in the House or teenagers,Are you just newly weds or been together for years,do you get enough alone time,Is there any pressure to have sex?The list can go on and on,what I'm trying to say is only you two and you alone can answer that question.If the mood is there and no one to disturb,go for it.There is no limit on how many times a day,week or month.You two will know when the time is right and,if you feel it is too often,say you have a headache,never fails.Hope this helps.
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mariemacinnis
. on Jun 29, 2016 @ 02:42 pm

I find early on in a relationship it is a more regular thing but as it goes on it becomes kind of a chore to schedule time.
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TaraLeadbeater
june 29 on Jun 29, 2016 @ 07:41 pm

yes that is the average amount, but it all depends on the couple
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wonderwhatif
. on Jun 30, 2016 @ 04:06 am

Stress is also a big factor as this can make you not want to do it, ever.
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Irememberu
..... on Jul 08, 2016 @ 02:44 am

I think any amount of realations is the right number, meaning whatever a couple is comfortable with and enjoys is teh right number for them. i don't think the number of times per week etc. should be judged by how many times others partake. After all, it is a personal thing. So, If you are active twice a week, six times a week that is the right amount There is no right or wrong amount Enjoy
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