quick update!!


erinlee
on Aug 16, 2011 @ 11:14 pm

So today myself, Jesse, and my younger sister (who's lived with me for 3 years now) have been TEARING apart the apartment, seperating every last thing I can think of (right down to the showerhead and garbage cans) and getting all my ex's things packed up and ready to be picked up TOMORROW!! Arranged through his mother of all people. So hopefully no bullshit... just pack up and get it out!
Finally...  we can have our new start, and he wont have any reason to call, text, or message me ever again!!!
Im so so happy and excited... its almost too good to be true, but the last cord will be cut and there will be no more ties as of about 6pm tomorrow!!! :-)
 


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AlexJC
Good for you! on Aug 17, 2011 @ 09:28 am

I'm so happy to hear that you are cutting the ties and letting go of the past. It is most definitely time to move on. If at all possible, I would try and not even be there when he comes, that way you completely avoid him all together and avoid the puppy dog face and sad eyes he might make. I think we can all agree that you've found yourself a keeper- so I would just forget and move on from this guy!

Congrats and let us know how it goes!
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Becky
yay!! on Aug 17, 2011 @ 11:25 am

Congratulations! That's great news :-) So glad his mom is helping out, hopefully that will keep the drama to a minimal. Good luck today and hope everything goes through smoothly for you. Keep us posted :-)
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TammyK
Yay! on Aug 17, 2011 @ 01:01 pm

I'm really happy for you. It's such a big move with a lot of work and effort but you did it! You can finally have a new start without your ex. Give yourself a pat on the shoulder :)
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erinlee
...totally ridiculous & Im so furious I could cry on Aug 17, 2011 @ 04:18 pm


Unreal.
So, while going through cupboards, getting all the last odds and ends together, Jesse found this old wooden chest that my grandmother had given me. In it was the note she written to me, basically saying that she gave me her set of silver cutlery/silverware that she had gotten as a wedding gift 58 years ago. Real silver, antique silverware that was a gift to my grandma on her wedding day. She gave it to me because Im her first granddaughter, as a gift for when I first moved out.
Well, we found the chest. And the note. And the chest was empty.
No way to prove anything, but I'd bet almost anything that my grandmothers wedding gift from 60 years ago was pawned to get a gram or 2 of coke.

To top things off, I get a message on facebook saying "sorry, today is a no-go" (as far as him picking up his stuff)
We have movers coming to get the rest of Jesse's furniture out of storage and bring it here, today, at 6pm. Storage is paid up until today.

Sometimes I cant even believe it. I mean, really??! Do these things actually happen to me?? I feel like Im in a bad, b-rated low budget movie where every stupid little thing goes wrong.
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AlexJC
Shut it down! on Aug 17, 2011 @ 04:44 pm

Alright. Time for some tough love erinlee:

You need to cut this boy out. The fact that he may or may not have stolen from you proves it. He is obviously toxic in your life and current relationship.

Here is what I would do:
1.Block and delete off facebook,cut off all forms of communication with him, change your number if need be.
2.Give him a time frame. Tell him he has exactly (one week for ex) to pick up his stuff, after which you will donate/throw it out and be firm with this.
3.Don't be there when he comes to arrive, don't try and speak to him again.

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TammyK
Sorry to hear that on Aug 18, 2011 @ 12:58 pm

So sorry to hear about your grandmother's chest. It must be really hard since it was something so sentimental. I know you're upset over it but this is exactly what your ex-boyfriend wants - for you to still be thinking about him.

Even though it's upsetting and chances are you will never see that set again, you need to once and for all tell yourself to just not give a damn about anything else that he does. You might find more surprises later but you need to prepare your mind for it and know that when you find those unpleasant surprises, he can't get to you anymore physically, and psychologically.

My heart goes out to you because I realized how hard this break-up is, especially since he is NOT cooperating at all.
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Becky
enough is enough on Aug 19, 2011 @ 11:44 am

I say you did him the courtesy of letting him pick up his stuff from your place, he didn't do you the courtesy of honoring the time of picking. So now you are no longer responsible for his stuff. Simply pick everything up and give it to your nearest Goodwill. Especially since you suspect him of stealing your Grandma's stuff, you really don't owe him anything anymore. Not even a phone call. Not a text message. Nothing. Don't bother letting him know that you're giving his stuff to Goodwill. Avoid his attempts at contacting you. Call your phone company and change your phone number if you need to. If he tries coming to your place then tell him that "this is your first and last warning: you come near me or my loved ones again and I'll slap a restraining order on you".

The days of giving him a date/time to pick up his stuff are OVER. You gave him a time and he didn't show up. End of story. Now you take all his crap and give it to the charity store and wash your hands off of it. And please don't call or text or email to tell him what you're doing. Don't contact him at all, for any reason. That's exactly what he wants, and he's deliberately creating scenarios to push you into contacting him. Don't fall for his trap. Give his stuff away. Don't give him any info on what you're doing. Simply cut him out of your life cold turkey. You are not responsible for anything to do with him. Period.
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