on Mar 27, 2015 @ 10:36 pm|
Is your man the 'strong & silent type' or is he chatty and outgoing?
My boyfriend of three years (next month!) is usually pretty quiet and doesn't tell you much unless you ask...It takes me for. ever to get a full story out of him lol...I'm a chatty cathy, especially when he gets home from work. I've been home with a baby all day, I want to talk to someone who can talk back but I usually just get grunts and "mmhmm"'s. So frustrating! Am I the only one with a not so chatty significant other??
|CHATTY on Mar 28, 2015 @ 01:11 am|
My husband is so so so CHATTY. I love it; he gets along so well with everyone. But at the same time it drives me NUTS sometimes, haha. We'll be trying to run quick errands but he can strike up a long conversation with complete strangers. I'm envious that he can talk to people so easily; I'm really shy and am definitely the quiet one in the relationship. That's not to say I'm never chatty-- sometimes I never shut up-- but he has the gift for gab.
My mom is the same way. When they're in a room together, lord help me. They get along great, those chatty ones.
|Great! on Mar 28, 2015 @ 04:19 pm|
Awe that's great that he's easily to get along with, that's important I think. My boyfriend is polite and talks to my family but really only if they talk to him first. It took everyone quite some time to warm up to him at first because he is so quiet lol...I'm the same as your hubby, so chatty when we're out and about. I can strike up a conversation with anyone. If you had met me ten years ago, I'd barely say two words let alone make eye contact with any one!!
|My Boyfriend on Mar 29, 2015 @ 01:13 pm|
I would consider my boyfriend to be more interverted then extroverted, but he is pretty social when he wants to be! I would definitely say he is more shy then me, but that's alright! We kind of balance each other out in a way because I am more outgoing and carefree and he is more reserved and content!
|my b. on Mar 31, 2015 @ 09:56 am|
My boyfriend is a combination of both. When his brain gets going there is no stopping - and he will talk and talk and talk and talk - but there are times when he just needs to shut down and process in peace and quiet, without much chatting at all. I think that's the thing with ADHD - sometimes his brain just over processes so much that he needs just needs some time to shut down (willingly or not), and I never know what to expect. It makes for some interesting times for both of us haha.
|Interest on Mar 31, 2015 @ 05:50 pm|
Maybe start off with something that he is interested in, then transition to something you want to talk about. Sometimes people want to unwind for a few minutes when they get home, while other can get right into conversation mode. I get your frustration, try and talk to him let him know that you want to be able to talk more with him and see how it goes. All the best.
|Chatty on Apr 01, 2015 @ 01:44 am|
My man has a huge ego and follows me around all day making noises at me. Of course, my man is my cat, but same thing.
|Chatty on Apr 07, 2015 @ 01:08 pm|
I've had mixed feelings about both the quiet and chatty types. Overall, I think I actually prefer chatty so that I can sit back and let him do all the talking :p
|mix on Apr 07, 2015 @ 03:58 pm|
Honestly, there's really no changing someone like that and even if you're with him for another forty years, he's not going to open up anymore. That's just his personality. I know, because I'm the exact same way. There are some times where I'm chatty when you get me started on a particular subject, but the majority of the time I'm pretty quiet. It was very jarring to me when I first when to my husband's family get togethers and I saw just how different his family was compared to mine. Where as mine will break off into groups and talk quietly amongst each other, his family yells at each other from across the room and they talk loudly about multiple topics. It gets really confusing and loud. His family make fun of me all the time about how quiet I am. But honestly, I couldn't get a word in even if I wanted to. I'm not the type to raise my voice to be heard, so I choose to sit quietly and just listen to the others talk because I don't like repeating myself if they don't hear me over their loudness.
My husband is a nice mixture. He has a presence about him and an easy smile that strangers always pick up on and they immediately feel relaxed around him and talk to him and share things that they would never with me. Thankfully he's not like other chatty people I know that strike up long winded conversations with people that are entirely one sided because the other person doesn't care in the least about what that person is talking about and monopolizing the conversation with.