on Nov 18, 2008 @ 02:04 pm|
I just finished reading an amazing book called Eat,Pray,Love by Elizabeth Gilbert. Theres a part in here I can't seem to get over and have found myself reading it out loud to people who needed to hear it at that particular moment, so I decided to post it here, it really sheds a new light on the meaning of the word *soul mate*
"Taken from her journies through India in an Ashram where Liz meets Richard, her friend from Texas"
I don't want anyone to talk to me. I can't tolerate anyones face right now. I even manage to dodge Richard from Texas for a while, but he eventually finds me at dinner and sits down- brave man- in my black smoke of self loathing.
"What's got you all wadded up?" he drawls, toothpick in mouth, as usual. "Don't ask," I say, but then I start talking and tell him every bit of it, concluding with, "And worst of all, I can't stop obsessing over David. I thought I was over him, but it's all coming up again."
He says "Give it another 6 months, you'll feel better."
"I've already given it 12 months, Richard."
"Then give it six more. Just keep throwin' six months at it till it goes away. Stuff like this takes time." I exhale hotly through my nose, bull-like.
"Liz," Richard says, "listen to me. Someday you're gonna look back on this moment of your life as such a sweet time of grieving. You'll see that you were in mourning and your heart was broken, but your life was changing and you were in the best place possible in the world for it. Take this time, every minute of it and let things work themselves out here in India."
"But I really loved him."
"Big deal. So you fell in love with someone. Don't you see what happened? this guy touched a place in your heart deeper than you thought you were capable of reaching, I mean you got zapped, kiddo. But that love you feel, that's just the beginning. You just got a taste of love. That's just limited rinky dink mortal love. Wait till you see how much more deeply you can love than that. Heck, Liz- you have the capacity to someday love the whole world. It's your destiny. Don't laugh."
"I'm not laughing." I was actually crying. "And please don't laugh at me now, but I think the reason it's so hard for me to get over this guy is because I seriously believed David was my soul mate."
"He probably was. Your problem is that you don't understand what the word means. People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that's holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. And thank God for it. Your problem is, you just can't let this one go. It's over, Liz. Davids purpose was to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you had to transform your life, then beat it. That was his job, and he did great, but now it's over. Problem is, you can't accept that this relationship had a real short shelf life. You're like a dog at the dump baby- you're just lickin' at an empty tin can, trying to get more nutrition out of it. And if you're not careful, that cans' gonna get stuck on your snout forever and make your life miserable. So drop it."
"But I love him."
"So love him."
"But I miss him."
"So miss him. Send him love and light every time you think about him, and then drop it. Your afraid to let go of the last bits of David cause then you'll really be all alone, and Liz is scared to death of what will happen if she's really alone. But here's what you gotta understand, If you clear out all the space in your mind that you're using to obsess about this guy, you'll have a vacuum there, an open spot- a doorway. And guess what the universe will do with that doorway? It will rush in and fill you with more love than you ever dreamed. So stop using David to block that door. Let it go."
"But I wish me and David could-" He cuts me off. "See, now that's your problem. You're wishin' too much baby. You gotta stop wearing your wishbone where your backbone oughtta be."
|Thanks on Nov 18, 2008 @ 04:44 pm|
I've heard really great things about this book too. That's a really great excerpt, thanks for sharing. I think I'm gonna go get it and read it tonight!
|thanks!! on Nov 18, 2008 @ 04:54 pm|
wow, talk about a different take on things!! this is really nice thanks for sharing!! and yup i'm gonna go check it out too :)
|loved the book on Nov 18, 2008 @ 10:05 pm|
i read it and i loved it. worth every penny! :D