Relationship after baby..


droy
on Jul 02, 2015 @ 10:56 am

Hi everyone I am in need of relationship advice. We had a baby 7 months ago and my husband works 12hr days. Our relationship has no spark anymore. When he comes home I'm ready for bed because my little one keeps me busy. I get up early with him to have a coffee and chat but it's not enough.  

On the weekends he wants to be with our daughter because he doesn't see much of her during the week.

What can we do to bring the spark back?
 


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mela86
Possible Date Nights? on Jul 02, 2015 @ 02:27 pm

Is it possible to leave your baby with someone on weekends for just even 2 hours? You can try it out for once a month at first then more frequently, just doing anything alone for 2 hours to bring the focus back on the two of you and maintaining your relationship.

If you can't find a babysitter, does your baby take naps during the day? Maybe during nap time on the weekends you can do things together at home, like watch a movie or play games?

It's not going to be easy at first but if it's a priority for both of you, you can make it happen.
Hope it all works out!
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Cupcake
... on Jul 04, 2015 @ 07:56 am

Honestly.. This is all normal.. It's part of life,you've gotta work to provide for the family & mommy has to take care of baby. Yes your both gonna be tired after a long day. Try staying up one or two nights to greet him as he comes home? Have a nice conversation about your days or Maybe, on one of his days off have the in-laws or your parents babysit while you guys go for a nice dinner and a movie?
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danayyc
Yeah on Jul 04, 2015 @ 12:25 pm

I hear you....we have no family around and I won't be comfortable with a babysitter for a while (baby is 5 months) so it's definitely harder to find a bit of time for the parents. I find taking advantage of baby's weekend naps sometimes helps.
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Cupcake
... on Jul 10, 2015 @ 10:47 pm

Yeah that can be tough when you don't have family around for that extra help. Whatever time alone time you can squeeze in, make the best of it.
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mommyisboring
Me too on Sep 09, 2015 @ 03:44 pm

My daughter is almost three and my relationship has been struggling for quite some time. The most important thing to me is my children (another is on the way) and thankfully he understands this. We work hard to try and do things together even just once in a while but it's not enough to bring back the spark. Not sure if it can get any worse with another baby! Good luck with everything...I know I could use some of my own good luck wishes.
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Anonymous
Time for mommy and daddy only on Sep 22, 2015 @ 06:07 pm

Plan ahead for his day/days off. Leave your baby with someone reliable for 1 0r 2 days as long as your husband is off, Pamper yourself and get ready for time alone. If possible take off to new surroundings, away from the house. Buy a nice bedtime outfit that will wow him. light candles, relax and let the fireworks start again
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martac
,,,, on Sep 23, 2015 @ 05:46 pm

How about establishing a date night once every couple of weeks just the 2 of your for at least a couple of hours. Get a babysitter and spend alone time
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Tiffyr
... on Sep 23, 2015 @ 09:12 pm

A date night is key to keeping your relationship strong. I have two children and have been with my husband for 11 years and married for 8 of them. We always take time to ourselves to have alone time. If you can't get a sitter plan a romantic night at home. We always have a nice dinner with drinks and dress nice after the kids go to bed and it really helps us keep romance in our lives. I can honestly say our relationship has never been better then it is now. I know how it gets after having a kid and that is perfectly normal so you just have to take the time to have those special moments with your significant other and the spark will come back.
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