Secretly watching porn...yay or nay?

on Mar 09, 2016 @ 05:39 pm

I have recently come across that my husband is back to watching porn again. By no means is our love life lacking. Call my old fashioned, but I find it disrespectful for him to be watching it. Am I completely out of line? We have had a discussion a few years ago about how I didn't like it and he told me he wouldn't watch it anymore.

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Nay on Mar 09, 2016 @ 06:24 pm

I think Anonymous that if I ever saw or caught my Husband watching porn,that would be the day I would throw him out.I have no time or tolerance for anything like that.What man wants to watch porn ,when his Wife is right beside him?I wouldn't have it if it were me,just my opinion.

. on Mar 09, 2016 @ 06:57 pm

I don't have an issue with porn or with a partner watching it, but I would have an issue with him lying and hiding it. I think you should confront him with the fact he is hiding it and is lying to you.

agreed on Mar 10, 2016 @ 10:00 am

I also would say that I have no issue with my partner watching porn, but if you feel it is disrespectful and have told them that than that it is an issue. Obviously you can't control what they do, but viewing porn, and then lying to you about it is a larger issue than just the porn itself. Your partner will do what he he wants to ultimately, you need to allow yourself to have a line that is unacceptable for him to cross. Make sure these things are communicated effectively. You have just as much a right to feel disrespected as he has a right to different outlets for his desires.

. on Mar 10, 2016 @ 12:48 pm

To me porn is just fine as long as my boyfriend doesn't only watch porn and wants nothing to do with me. If he would rather fap while watching porn than he would prefer having sex with me.

Him watching porn doesn't mean that he is comparing you to any of these women. It doesn't mean that something is wrong with you or in your couple.

So basically as long as it doesn't affect our sex life i really do not care. It has nothing to do with me. He isn't disrespecting you in any ways (unless he is actively hidding it from you and lying about it)

I'm a prude too I think on Mar 10, 2016 @ 01:41 pm

I get jealous :(

Be honest on Mar 10, 2016 @ 02:45 pm

It's not the porn that bugs me (it can be fun to watch together or alone).

It's lying about it.

If he's honest about it, as long as it's not obsessive (i.e. recreational use vs compulsive and the only way he can get off), it can be a good tool for both men and women to use to help make our sex lives for interesting.

I know many are against it, and that is their choice and view - I respect that :)


porn on Mar 10, 2016 @ 03:33 pm

I truly believe if a man gets what he needs/wants at home there is no need for porn. Period.No offence intended, but there are women out there that take their man for granted and aren't as loving as they used to be due to all kinds of reasons. I repeat, do not mean to be offensive but men tend to feel left out as we do at times.

YAY!!! on Mar 10, 2016 @ 03:39 pm

I'm all about "me time"!!! Even better if he watches with me. I think it's ridiculous when women get upset at their men for watching porn. They need their "me time" too!! Women, don't smother your dudes! He's all about you, but, it's nice to have a little extra.

Not offended, just concerned on Mar 10, 2016 @ 03:45 pm

My boyfriend is into lesbian porn... He's certainly not getting that at home! I really enjoy watching orgy and group.. I'm definitely not getting that at home! That would be like him scolding you on having a dildo when he's got the same thing.. See what I mean? Everyone has their likes and dislikes-- I think porn is totally healthy on both ends. It can really spice up your sex life too!!! Put one on and act it out! Grab some sex toys and really loosen up. Nothing is black and white with sex.

<3 on Mar 16, 2016 @ 08:58 am

I hate porn and that's probably the way I was raised and the type of men who I knew watched it. That being said I don't think all guys who watch porn are gross or greasy or whatever but the concept grosses me out. Ask him to sit down with you and tell him how much it bothers you and why it bothers you.
He's your husband and needs to respect your feelings... relationships take sacrifice and I think porn (if that is your wish) should be given up.
That being said you also need to hear him out and find out why he's doing it.
Some guys do it out of habit, maybe theres something he's embarrassed to ask you for in the bedroom department... Theres tons of reasons why a person would watch porn and 99% of them have nothing to do with you.
love & support!

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