Should I just forget him?


SO MiSS UNDERStOODx3
on Mar 24, 2009 @ 04:22 pm

So there's this boy. And I messed with him for about a year now. And we've been on and off since October. But now I don't know anymore. In the beginning when we messed around he was always the one doinq me wronq and hurtinq me nd everythinq else. then one time i cheated on him, and thinqs just went down furrem there. but now he tells me hes so serious about everythinq and hes cried for me and everythinq..bhut im not sure i wunnah be in dha relationship now. even thouqh if i saw him with other qirls i would cry and if he told meh he didnt love me i would also cry. we been thru so much. bhut now i have mixed feelinqs..should i just forqet em no matter how much i love him and try tuh move on? PLEASE HELP!

leave him;;
or stick with him?

 


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mamaluv
toxic on Mar 24, 2009 @ 04:38 pm

Just based on what you wrote here, I'd definitely have to say that this relationship is not helping either of you. Move on! It sounds like such a line, but you will find someone else, someone you don't have this crazy history with. If you've both cheated at one stage or another, you are obviously not as in love as you presume. Sorry, just have to be blunt here.
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silvercity
... on Mar 24, 2009 @ 07:52 pm

for now you should at least take a break from him....this way you could clear your mind.
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MissLissa
Take a breather, on Mar 25, 2009 @ 09:08 am

It comes across to me that neither you or your boyfriend know what you want or need. You need to take a step back and look at what you want in a relationship. Do you want to be with someone who cheats on you or someone you can cheat on? Just because you have been through a lot doesn't mean that you need to continue going along with a relationship where people only THINK they care for one another.

You need to ask yourself why you are in this relationship and what each of you get out of it. You and your partner need to have similar goals and the ultimate one is making the other happy while committing themselves. You're young and there are so many people out there who won't lie to you, cheat on you or make you feel upset or confused. When you know, you know.
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Patricia
I agree... on Mar 25, 2009 @ 02:45 pm

From what you have said, there are very few positives, if any, in this situation. I think you already know what you have to do, but I know (very well) that it's very hard to do what you know you need to do!!

Try this...
Make a list of all the good things about him and the relationship. Then a list of all the bad things. Be honest with yourself, this is the only way the exercise will be helpful. It's easier to see things in perspective when there is something to actually look at.

There is something better out there for you! Do what is right for you! Look out for yourself and be happy with who you are... the rest will follow.

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Becky
very true.. on Mar 27, 2009 @ 12:17 pm

Just because you have been through a lot doesn't mean that you need to continue going along with a relationship where people only THINK they care for one another.

Really well said. Often, because we've "been through so much" with the guy, we think that this is it and we have to stick it out and be with him no matter what. Life is much longer than whatever you can possibly go through with someone... You've gone through drama with him, but life is more dramatic than that. You've perhaps been on again / off again for many years, how many? 5? 10? life is still longer..... You owe it to yourself and to him to determine if this relationship is really healthy for you both, (from what you described it doesn't sound very healthy), and if it isn't you need to be strong and walk away. Walking away, and being alone after you've been with someone is very hard to do, but its one of those things that you have to do for your own good. When we're little, our parents/adults do things for us that we may not appreciate at the time, but later realize it to be good for us - now that we're the adults, we have to do the same things for ourselves.

Patricia hun i Love ur list idea :) i'm suuuuuuuch a list person!!! I make study lists, to do lists, lists of books i want to read, lists of how i'm gonna spend my day....etc etc... and yes lists of pros / cons on guys :) love it!
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KLadyJ21
Do You on Apr 05, 2009 @ 07:19 pm

Maybe you just need some time to yourself..
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