Should you bring a date to a wedding if you are single?

on Nov 12, 2007 @ 01:27 pm

I'm just a bit puzzled here. I'm now single (broken up with my ex half a year ago). I know I'll be invited to a couple of weddings pretty soon. I'm not sure if I'll be comfortable to attend the banquets solo, especially to attend those not-so-close friends/co-workers' weddings, understanding that if I do invite a date (which I don't have one right now), I'll have to pay for the other person as well.

IF you were me, what would you do? Please help.

4 Replies

Feisty Redhead
well... on Nov 12, 2007 @ 01:52 pm

Sometimes it depends; if the wedding invitation is for you only then bringing a date might be a no-no. So the first thing to do would be to ask if you'd even be allowed to bring someone else with you.

That said, I've gone to plenty of weddings alone and it's never been an issue. You're seated with other people, so you'll have people to talk to and keep you company. Granted it could be weird if everyone you're sitting with is part of a couple but honestly I never find it all that weird when that happens.

You could always just bring a friend too - it doesn't *have* to be a date.

If it's really going to bother you to go alone, you always have the option of just not going, too. I guess it comes down to how important it is to you that you go.

Ali de Bold
Depends on Nov 12, 2007 @ 02:11 pm

I totally agree with Feisty Redhead. If the invite is addressed to you plus a guest, then bring a date or a friend. If it just has your name on it, that may mean it really is intended only for you.

Weddings cost the couple on a per person basis so depending on their budget they may not be able to afford allowing everyone a guest. Just confirm and if you can bring someone and if you can't then just go a have a good time.

My brother met his wife at a wedding so it goes to show it can be a good thing to go solo ;)

updates on my situation on Nov 12, 2007 @ 02:33 pm

Thanks for replying.

Let me say more about the invitations. If the couple only invites me, then I have absolutely no problem of going alone. However, I know that I'll most likely be invited to bring a guest. That's why I'm worried I'll be assigned to sit in a group that are all couples, then I may feel and look weird...

So I guess now I know I can actually bring a *friend* instead of a *date*, this might be easier to do.

Going alone can be awkward on Nov 12, 2007 @ 05:42 pm

I went to a wedding without my hubby this summer and I only knew 2 other people at the wedding (one of those ppl were in the wedding party). I was seated at the table with 2 other couples and their babies. They were really really nice people and very friendly, so I had a good time chatting with them and getting to know them. BUT the problem was that their babies were so young that they all left by 8pm. Seriously, my whole table left and I was sitting there by myself. It was so awkward because I didn't know anyone else and the other girl I know was still eating at her table. What made things even worse was that I was relying on someone else to drive me home, so it wasn't even like I could leave early. Luckily for me, I got to wander around the zoo (opened to wedding guests) for about 1/2 hour and when I came back, I found the only other person I know and chatted with her and the guests at her table. I was worried this might happen but she's a very very good friend of mine and I would not miss her wedding for the world. I am very glad I went to the wedding.

I've been to other weddings by myself before and I've always had a good time. People at the table are usually pretty good at chatting, even if they are all couples. Most people don't just chat with their significant others and isolate themselves. So if you can't bring a friend, I think it'll be ok.

If your invitation doesn't say anything about bringing a guest and you really want to bring someone, you can always ask the bride. There's a good chance the bride would say no because usually numbers are very tight. But it doesn't hurt to ask...

If you do bring a guest, then I think you'd have to include your friend in the gift (ie. put his/her name on the card and get a bigger gift or give more $$). Now...if I was the "guest", I would offer to share the cost of the wedding gift, even if it's not a 50/50 split; I would at least offer something. But some people will not think of that and it's awkward for you to ask your guest for money. So in the end, you might have to absorb all the cost of the gift.

Hope this helps!!

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