The food our husbands eat when we are not around

on Mar 13, 2015 @ 07:40 pm

this is a fight I have all the time with my husband and son.  Any ladies out there that have a problem getting husband, boyfriend or children to eat properly.  I have heard all the excuses, but the best one is fast food tastes better then home cooking.  I keep offering up the cooking duty but no one steps up to the plate.

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Picky Eaters on Mar 14, 2015 @ 12:00 am

I hear you! Some members of my family are picky eaters as well. I recently started a weekly menu where everyone suggests a meal they would like to eat during the week, but I try to make it as healthy as possible. For instance, if they want fries, I'll make sweet potato oven baked fries. Then, once every month, we'll have take out which is usually pizza or Chinese food.

Getting picky kids to eat can seem like a difficult task, but with a few strategies, they'll be eating regularly in no time. Here are a few suggestions:

- Get them to shop with you and choose a healthy vegetable or product they would like you to cook with.

- Get them involved in the kitchen. This is going to help them have ownership of the meal and since they invested time in the preparation, it's very likely they'll eat it.

- Have a "one bite rule". They must have at least one bite of everything that is on their plate. More than likely, they will discover foods that they thought would taste bad, actually tastes pretty good!

- Separate their food into separate sections of the plate instead of clumping everything together like an adult's meal.

- Make it fun and turn it into a game. Ask them if they can identify all the ingredients or make a smiley face out of their meal. Eat the alphabet - every week, try a new food for one letter of the alphabet.

- Give them two choices of meals so that they can at least have an option.

What not to do:

- Don't promise them a "special meal" if they finish the one that's in front of them. This will only make them think that whatever they are presently eating, isn't as delicious.

- Never reward or punish with food. For instance, telling them they will get ice cream if they clean their room or spinach if they don't.

- Don't force them to eat something they don't like. Eating is a personal experience and what may work for you, might not sit well with someone else. For example, if you love eating broccoli, someone else may find it hard to digest or they detest the smell. Instead, make a list of foods they would love to eat, that doesn't include junk food and build your weekly menu that way.

I hope these tips help! Good luck!!


Food on Mar 14, 2015 @ 01:02 pm

Wow prettyrainbow, you have put a lot of great suggestions in your post. You are right that getting them involved in the shopping process would really help. My daughter had read a recipe for Pita Pizza's and she made them for everyone once we had shopped for everything we need. Now as long as I have supplies on hand they will make their own any way they want it. They are quick and easy to put together and put in the oven. I like them because they do not have a lot of dough.
Have a good day

picky eaters on Mar 14, 2015 @ 05:12 pm

When our son was growing up, he was so picky, I wanted to scream at times! He loved eating my home cooking, it was he was just picky. For instance, he would eat raw brussell sprouts, but if I cooked them-he wouldn't eat it. He ate creamed potatoes like crazy, but if I fried potatoes, he wouldn't eat them. We always had the 1 bite rule also. Our daughter would eat whatever I cooked, even if she didn't like the item. Our son has gotten some better, he is married now. They both eat out so much! She doesn't like to cook. I taught him how, when he was a teenager. He cooks for them both at times. Eating out is just not healthy. We never rewarded them with sweets either. If I made dessert, they knew they had to at least take 1 bite. We ended up taking in my husband's niece and 2 nephews when they were very young. They were picky also. But, eventually they grew out of it. I just didn't never give in to their pickiness!

picky eaters on Mar 14, 2015 @ 06:59 pm

hi rogersresaca
My daughter would not eat sandwichs of any kind so in her lunch would be cut up veggies, fruit and cheese. She also liked yogourt. I baked every week for lunches and always put in oatbran, wheat germ or bran so they were getting healthy fibre. Everyone for the most part ate what I cooked. I always had cut up veggies as well as cooked, so that everyone would eat a vegetable. Salad went over well. You were right not to give into pickiness as it can only get worse. My son had a friend who would only eat peanut butter sandwiches. It drove his mom crazy but she gave into him because he would not eat anything else. He evenually grew out of that.

Picky Eaters on Mar 15, 2015 @ 11:03 pm

I feel like I'm the opposite here. I eat great around my husband, but when he's not around I don't always eat the greatest. BUT I'm proud to say that does not include fast food, with the exception of Timmies and Starbucks every once and awhile. I ate McDonald's as a kid, but I haven't eaten it in years because...that's...well, that's just not real food.

I think what really helps when it comes to eating well is encouragement from your spouse. It's easy to eat bad when they eat bad with you, but when they are on board with eating healthy, it's so much easier to avoid bad choices. I think the one thing you have to watch out for is the guilt trips and the nagging. I can tell you that's the one thing that would lead me to eat worse.

When I was a kid, I was a terribly picky eater. I think my parents tried a lot of those suggestions, but I don't think anything worked. I honestly think that picky eaters grow out of it with age. I mean, there are picky eaters that last until adulthood and that's no good, but a lot of the reasons that kids are picky eaters has to do with safety mechanisms. Kids have way stronger taste buds than adults, so they often grow out of their pickiness.

There's a great cookbook called "Deceptively Delicious" which is all about sneaking fruits and veg into foods, but not telling your kids about it. ( ) There are some great recipes and tips and tricks to help you with your picky eaters!

picky eaters on Mar 15, 2015 @ 11:17 pm

Hi bethanito,
You are right about slipping good vegetables and fruit into food. I never had a problem with raw fruit or vegetables with my kids, but it was like pulling teeth to get my husband to eat any of this. The only vegetable he likes to eat is corn (cream or kernels). He will eat grapes and sometimes pears (if I cut them up and core them). It is not what I feed my husband and son at home, it is what they eat when they are away from home. I put pureed pumpkin or cooked carrots in chili and sometimes in soups that I make. I always put lots of vegetables in stews and soups.
You are right I should not nag and it is very difficult for me because I know how important eating properly is to our health.
You have a great day.

picky eaters on Mar 20, 2015 @ 11:00 pm

He would live on Kraft Dinner if I didn't cook for him, but he isn't that picky about what I cook thankfully. He only likes certain vegetables, so lots of tomato based foods and pureeing stuff into sauces so he doesn't know.
I will admit I get lazy about cooking a proper meal if he is away too, I will eat cereal or a smoothie or something too.

Picky Eaters on Mar 21, 2015 @ 05:43 pm

Hi FallenPixels,

I am with you, if everyone is out of the house, I am quite happy to eat cereal or a bag of popcorn. Mind you right now I am eating the grapes from my husbands lunch that he did not eat. I love almost all vegetables and fruits. I will not eat liver or lima beans but I am game for just about anything else. I like making pita pizza's though because they are easy and crunchy.
Hope you are having a great day.

great suggestions on Mar 23, 2015 @ 09:50 am

I agree with the ideas people have already mentioned, in particular:

1) don't force the issue on serious aversion foods. I have tried to get over my lifelong issue with brussel sprouts and it is just not happening. I have managed to get over almost every other hangup I had (I was not super picky, but like all kids I refused certain foods which I now happily eat). I remember many times being forced to finish my serving of brussel sprouts and having to gag it down. 

2) one-bite rule is very achievable. This idea of "you must finish your plate" not only makes food the enemy/negative reinforcement, but I heard somewhere that it is (one of many) roads to obesity. We should ALL stop eating when we're satisfied, not when the plate is clean. The best way to ensure you don't waste food (ie. clean plate) is to control portion sizes in the first place.

3) do not make a special menu separate from your main dinner offerings. I do agree to cook to your family's likes to ensure the food you provide is likely to be eaten, but never to make specialized foods for one or several family members (allergy-related alternates of course excluded). Cooking to family preferences should, of course, mean that the meal is also well-rounded (so find that one veggie that people will eat and exploit that). Even though the "four food groups" idea is getting a little outdated, I still find the concept behind it to be helpful and try to incorporate all of the groups in any given meal (though with heavier emphasis on veggies and proteins these days).

The truth is that there are so many amazing recipes and meal ideas out there that incorporate a lot of really tasty and healthy foods so there is no excuse for serving up crap. Many picky eating situations are not so much that you dislike what you've been given but that you would prefer something else.

I disagree with the notion (not mentioned by anyone here; I mean in general) that you should not hide healthy ingredients in foods because it does not teach kids to enjoy those ingredients on their own merits. In my experience, it's because I have hidden foods in spaghetti sauce or other recipes that I'm able to tell my kids "See? You enjoy when I put spinach in the lasagne, so let's try it on pizza now." I have had a lot of success with this sneaky approach. 

JMO :)

Picky eaters on Mar 23, 2015 @ 01:12 pm

Hi mamaluv
Husbands and childrens taste buds can change over time and I agree as well that forcing anyone to eat something they do not like or think that they don't like will change the way they feel about that food.
You are right as well that there are many wonderful recipes out there to experiment and try. My daughter started cooking a couple of years ago and has become a good cook who experiments with food all the time.
Have a great day.

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