on Jan 31, 2008 @ 05:08 pm|
So what are you guys and gals doing for Valentines Day.
After this week, I understand why women don't really care about high price gifts when compared to something thoughtful. And unless the girl actually likes flower, it is probably better to buy her an expensive box of chocolate.
Also, I understand why my birthday is sandwiched between two of my co-workers' birthday in the mid of November. Since sex is how women celebrate the love bonding with her lover and valentine day is destined to be the day of that celebration. Thus there are lots of child of valentines day.
My stupid co-worker pointed it out to me and completely freaked me out. Now whenever i think of my birthday, Its just nightmare and horror images that come to my mind. I used to be proud to be a Winter child.
I think to do something for the guys at valentine is easy. A nice prepared lunch or dinner would do. A handmade glove or scarf would be nice too but not necessary. Buying something for him is pretty pointless.
I am thinking of what i can do to help me with this girl that i probably has 0 chance with. I got her the chocolate which she likes in Christmas already. So I got to think of another thing that shows how i care about her. But also thinking if i should not do it. I got 0 chance with her in Christmas then but she was happy that i was thoughtful.
|Our Plans on Jan 31, 2008 @ 07:19 pm|
My boyfriend and I both booked Valentine's Day off this year (I had to work it last year..until midnight) so we could do something together. We're going for dinner at Gasthaus Gutenberger (yummy German restaurant), then going to a Metal show. How romantic, lol. It's something we both enjoy, so that's what counts. :) As for gifts, he's buying me a hoodie from show, since I always steal his, and I got him some MMA shorts he's been eying..nothing too expensive, and it's items with both want and will use.
About that special girl, why not ask her to do something with you on Valentine's Day or around then? Instead of buying her material objects, spend some time with her so you can get to know each other.
|Nik on Jan 31, 2008 @ 10:47 pm|
Wow you guys planned this out. I thought girls often like surprises. But what you are doing is against what i imagined. I think it would be cool to have a special homemade lunch together too. Sucks that its a thursday for you guys. I think you guys should have took Friday off instead.
My special girl...
Well we used to work together last 4 months. But i still go visit once a week.
Yeah maybe i will try to ask her out on facebook. I don't think its a good idea to ask her face to face now as I can barely find a chance to see her alone. And i don't want to creep her out by waiting for her before or after she work.
I heard she finally broke up with her boyfriend. That hasn't been confirmed.
It is hard for me to talk to her though. I am too afraid that one word I say would ruin everything. Its like with other girls at work, I would be so much more talkative. But when i am with her, we rarely say an extra word to each other. Like when we first met, I offered to drive her home. When we were in the car, I tried not to sound stupid or be too boring.
But when she say anything to me, I would be so happy. I remember she made my day when she asked me about my weekend.
And her appreciating the chocolate i gave her for christmas was like the best Christmas gift for me ever.
I am actually happy now after she asked me why i talk to my female friend and ruin my guy friend chance. At least we 'communicated'.
Oh well. Hope i can hear what others are doing this Valentines day.
|Haha... on Jan 31, 2008 @ 11:00 pm|
Yeah she actually removed me from the facebook friends list. So i guess that I don't even need to ask her out.
|Thursday on Feb 01, 2008 @ 05:29 pm|
Well the reason we're doing it on the Thursday is because of the show we're going to. They're playing in our city on the 14th...and we wouldn't be able to afford to book off two days in one week. It was also planned out because the band we're seeing is one of my favourites...so I asked him if we could go see them (he likes them as well). Surprises are nice...but as long as I get to spend time with him, I'm happy. :)
|Nothing special on Feb 01, 2008 @ 06:35 pm|
I'm not big on Valentine's Day, and neither is my boyfriend. So we're not doing anything special. Just seems silly to me, considering the history of the holiday. And people think Christmas is over-commercialized (and it is, as is every holiday anymore) but Valentine's Day has to be the king of them all in that aspect.
That said, the aspect of flowers as a gift for any occasion isn't my kind of thing. I personally prefer flowers that are still living, so a potted plant (or even some seeds for my favorite flowers) would be much better in my opinion than cut flowers. Bouquets are pretty, yes... but they don't last. I want something that will last.
To me it's more important to just spend time with your special someone to celebrate an occasion than to worry about going out somewhere or buying fancy gifts for each other. A home-cooked meal (even if you "can't cook" and the meal consists of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches!) and cuddling on the couch while watching a movie or two is a nice way to spend some time together. Cooking the meal together, too... that always provides some good together time and usually some laughs too. Things don't have to be extravagant and expensive to be special.
|the thought that counts on Feb 01, 2008 @ 08:01 pm|
I'm in a relationship where I'm definitely the more romantic one, and gift/date/surprise ideas come really easily to me. My boyfriend however seems to always dread valentine's day and every other holiday for that matter because of the commercialism of them. He does feel that pressure to buy the roses, and chocolates...etc. But, I so don't care for the flowers & chocolates. And in a way these standard presents are so thoughtless. I'd rather he be spending the time and money on a dinner that he's cooking for me. Show me some effort! But, I can't really tell him that. Could I? Would that be rude?... As in... Thanks, but I'd rather you do this? So, since we go through this every year, I'm getting resentful whenever we exchange gifts. I'd always put so much thought into it, and he's always so lazy. I'm almost at a point of saying bah humbug to all holidays, and of course valentine's day.
|Samuraiya on Feb 01, 2008 @ 09:03 pm|
Tell him to put effort in it is useless. He won't 'Get It'. All he would try to do is just buy a more expensive gift than the one from last year.
It takes time. My first gf tell me about it since 2001. I just 'Get It' this week. So you have to be patient.
|Samuraiya on Feb 01, 2008 @ 09:09 pm|
What does your boyfriend cherish most? I don't mean you. Is it his car? Computer? Camera?
Just tell him to treat you like how he cherishes this beloved.
I used to hand wash my car. It really took effort.
|little things vs. big productions on Feb 03, 2008 @ 09:41 am|
He's more about the "little things" - everyday chivalry, getting me out of situations (he's there when I need him), random but sweet emails, etc, all of which I do appreciate very much. But, he's just not that great with those "special days". So, it's a case of "little things" vs. the "big productions".
|mmm... on Feb 03, 2008 @ 05:43 pm|
Big production.... that is kind of hard. I think you got to give him some hints then. Like when you go out with him next time, say something like, ..."mmm... I think i am going to crave for some homemade pie." So he has some goal to reach for.
My friend got his girlfriend a bunch of presents (sweater, spa coupon, ...) for Christmas. Do you gals think its too much for one time? Would it be better to give one a time. Anyway i am pretty sure his girlfriend greatly appreciated his gifts.