virgin or not?

on Apr 18, 2009 @ 03:35 am

ok i spent some time with a best guy friend and we have been seeing each other on and off just to hang. we have known each other for a few years now and my feelings for him have grown and grown. he does not feel the same for me but does care about me as a very special friend. anyways we have been doing this friends with benefits for a while and have talked about takin it to the next base! we have not gone past 3rd and so i went over to his house and we started messin around and one thing lead to another. the thing is... i dont know if he put it in all the way... think just like the tip went in but then dont even know if ANY went in at all!! i just know it hurt a lil and i have never had sex before so it was my first time doing this and he did put a condom on and like i dont know everything happened so fast and it was super dark in his room so i didnt see nun just know that we both kept trying to put it in and i kept moving cause it hurt so we would stop and go back and change positions ugh!! it was kinda embarassing and not really good. he did say he was mad because it didnt go all the way but i just want to know if i still am a virgin or not and my cherrry didnt pop! please help!!!!!!!!!

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... on Apr 18, 2009 @ 01:06 pm

"he was mad because it didnt go all the way" what kind of a friend is his...he should be concerned about you not mad!

Anyhoo, I'm not an expert on this but if you say that only the tip went in then I don't think your cherry popped...was there any blood? And why would you want to lose something so precious to a guy who got mad at you because it did not go were probably just nervous and this happens quite's nothing to be embarressed about...he should be understanding...I just hope he doesn't change towards you once you go all the way...because then you will feel horrible...but just incase be prepared.


he sounds like a jerk on Apr 18, 2009 @ 09:00 pm

what are you doing hun? are you sure you want to be in this situation?? your friend-with-benefits sounds like a jerk!!! and benefits for who?? you were in a dark place being groped, shying away from pain, and instead of being concerned about you, he was angry cuz it didn't go in....???? what???? doesn't sound like theres much "benefit" in this for you!!! more like he's probably cute, probably says sweet things when he needs to to keep you hooked, and 'cuz you have feelings for him you're giving him your body to keep him interrested and still "friends" with you. think long and hard sweetie, cuz one thing with life is, there is only one, we don't get second chances. Do you really really want to be in this situation? If you think by keeping him as a friend will mean he'll eventually like you as more than a friend, that won't happen. If he was gonna like you as more than a friend, he already would. He sounds like a player who is in it for his own (physical) benefits.

I'm really sorry I know i sound brutal, but if you want a guy to like and respect you, you have to like and respect yourself first. Putting yourself in this situation is showing the guy that you're his to use and that you don't really care that much about yourself.

As far as whether you're a virgin or not, from the sounds of it, i think you still are. I'm pretty sure if you lost your virginity, you would be able to tell. If you really want to check you can always go to a doctor and find out.

take care of you on Aug 06, 2009 @ 05:11 pm

You need a kind, respect, honest guy. My first time was when I was 28 years old. I waited for a good guy. He would go soo close to being inside. But when I said no I am not ready he stopped. He knew I was not teasing or trying to be mean, but I just was not ready for that part yet. He stopped and when we did go further it was amazing. He still remembers 2 years later the day, the time, the weather. It was special.

Any guy who trys to fool you or gets mad is not taking you into consideration. It does hurt and you need to have someone your with to be mindful of that. Your cherry could have popped before during horseriding or other things.

But all in all be true to you...stand firm and never let a man tell you something different. Your body, mind and spirit is and do what your true gut insitincts tell u.

Need support need a ear...let me know...


this guy is a user on Aug 06, 2009 @ 08:24 pm

trust me,this guy is no friend.I agree with trish 100 percent

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