|Keep things interesting on Mar 19, 2012 @ 08:19 am|
was told this great peice of advice years ago: Keep each other interested by doing things together. Share a common hobby, interest or sport. Something the the two of you do together. Golf, Cooking, baseball, gardening. Anything where you share a common interest. Keeps things interesting.
|Hobbies on Mar 19, 2012 @ 08:35 am|
Great idea, Shuey - thanks so much. I'm thinking squash or badminton. :)
|start something new on Mar 19, 2012 @ 09:06 am|
I agree that finding a common hobby is a great idea but I would also suggest trying something that is new to both of you, especially something you've both thought about trying but never got around to doing.
If you're outdoorsy, try one of those multi-day hiking expeditions like the West Coast Trail on Vancouver Island, the Appalachian Trail which runs from Maine to Georgia, or even the ancient pilgrimage trail of Santiago de Compostela (France to Spain).
If you're a beach bum, research out-of-the-way beaches in exotic locales to visit. Or rent a motorcycle in Miami and ride the Florida Keys for a week. The list goes on and on!
But if you're more of a homebody, try a renovation project (either your own home or consider volunteering with Habitat for Humanity), cooking classes, or go skydiving.
Just think outside of the box, but make sure you're on the same page. If any choice causes you financial hardship or other relationship-straining stress, keep your expectations realistic. I have been married for a long time, and it's the crazy stuff we experience together that really makes us bond more than the everyday humdrum.
Good luck and keep us posted!
|....my 2 cents on Mar 19, 2012 @ 09:22 am|
I agree, it's important to do things together. I love the idea about having new experiences together. My bf and I want to go to Machu Picchu.
But I think that it is just as important to have your own life and hobbies. If you start doing everything together, spending ALL your free time together, it gets old fast. I know one of my serious relationships was like this. We even worked together for a while. It was just too much! I needed my own time and space. He was there ALL THE TIME!
Try to find a healthy balance of "me time" and "us time" and you will appreciate the special time together more.