What do you do when your husband won't initiate lovemaking?


wonderwhatif
on Jan 02, 2016 @ 01:43 am

My husband and I have a very open/honest relationship. I know it's because he works so much he's exhausted. We've discussed it multiple times but a solution never seems to work. But I also have a high sex drive and it leaves me feeling very lonely.

Worse, I don't want to pressure him because he's so tired. Any ideas? :/
 


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DEANENE
not easy to answer on Jan 02, 2016 @ 01:52 am

this is not easy to answer maybe pick a day and ask him he will be willing to go out for dinner or to a movie on a day when he's of work and that he's not so exhausted or try to do something with him that he likes doing that might put him in the mood sorry which I could be more help
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wonderwhatif
. on Jan 02, 2016 @ 02:00 am

Any help is good help! Honestly, we don't do that 'date' stuff often due to paying off vet bills right now, But maybe we could do a home movie date or something.

<3
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crystaljam
Fatigue sucks on Jan 02, 2016 @ 09:59 am

I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome...and life overall is exhausting.

It has also, unfortunately, over the years, lowered my libido.

I do, however, make an effort to be coerced by my husband or coerce him when I have a spurt of energy.

I find, as silly as it is, dressing up in lingerie/thigh highs with a garter belt definitely helps bring up Husband's libido when we're both exhausted.

For dates - even just going for coffee with cards is pretty inexpensive - gets you out of the rut of staying inside the house, and sharing some more intimate moments together...leading to a possible romp when you return home.

Husband also has Cialis for those weekends where we just want to be lazy and he's ready to go lol. TMI! It really does liven things up sometimes.

And would he be ok with watching you take care of yourself? This might also arouse him if he's too tired.

It's also up to him to put in the effort too- it takes me a lot of energy to work up the energy to not have lazy sex (and be more ineractive), but once the adrenalin gets pumping, one remembers why it's so much fun!
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charbella2
. on Jan 02, 2016 @ 10:03 am

Just making a point of cuddling even for 10 min every day may help and it is something to look forward too. And if you have a High sex drive maybe more will happen while cuddling :)
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wonderwhatif
. on Jan 02, 2016 @ 02:37 pm

Thanks for all the advice guys, I'm definitely gonna try some of this stuff! We're probably just mega stressed at the moment too!
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martac
. on Jan 04, 2016 @ 12:59 pm

Seduce him in a way you haven't done before....try role play maybe or something fun like that. Surprise him when he least expects it. I say don't talk about it just do it and then afterwards have a talk about doing it more often and think about fun ways to be together
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