on Nov 10, 2014 @ 11:51 am|
My boyfriend keeps his phone locked and never let's me see it. Sometimes he's texting at night when he thinks I'm asleep. Even when I answer the phone every once in a while, the person hangs up. This is getting concerning, help me please...
|Hope this helps on Nov 11, 2014 @ 09:08 am|
That would be pretty frustrating. It's hard to tell someone else what they should do in any relationship situation, but if it were me I think the best idea would be to calmly confront your boyfriend about this. Be chill, but ask him straight up about it. The stuff you've described him doing with his phone does seem sketchy, but the best option is to try to have a conversation about it. If it's making you feel insecure, tell him that. Be honest and maybe that will help him open up to you about this.
I hope this is a little bit of help to you! <3
|He'd be gone... on Nov 12, 2014 @ 02:24 pm|
If you don't have trust, you don't have anything.
He shouldn't be secretly texting and you shouldn't be suspicious.
I hate to be the one to say it, but it is time to re-evaluate your relationship.
|Red flag... on Nov 13, 2014 @ 01:37 am|
Definitely sounds sketchy and immature. We all deserve our privacy, but if he's actively hiding things from you that's a red flag. I definitely wouldn't accept it. I'm sorry you're in this situation and I hope it turns out to be nothing serious.
|If he has nothing to hide on Nov 13, 2014 @ 04:46 am|
If he has nothing to hide he will tell you the truth when you ask. If he's lying, your sixth sense will kick in. I've been in this situation before, unfortunately the latter and it hurt me badly. You need to talk to him before you drive yourself crazy thinking about who he is texting.
|talk to him on Nov 13, 2014 @ 01:04 pm|
Talk to him about it. You can't have a real relationship without open communication. After 3 or so years together I finally told my husband that I'm not comfortable with him talking with his exes and sharing details about our lives. He respected that, and he now tells me whenever they do happen to message him out of the blue. And he no longer Facebook messages them first or texts them first.
Just tell him you're curious and feeling a little insecure about the fact that when you answer the phone the person hangs up (not sure why you're answering his phone though, but if you guys have an arrangement where that's fine...) and that he's strangely texting in the middle of the night and appears secretive about it. If he starts getting defensive and going on about how you don't trust him, try to make him see it from your perspective and what would he think if you were doing the same things? If he's still defensive, then maybe it's time to re evalute the relationship.
Ali de Bold
|Suspect on Nov 14, 2014 @ 06:17 pm|
I think we create a lot of scenarios in our minds to make us feel better about something that is clearly suspect. But usually the most obvious answer is the truth. If he is hiding it is because he has something to hide. I would confront him and then use your intuition to decide if you believe him.