on Dec 05, 2014 @ 07:17 pm|
Omg i am hoing through the same thing right now ..ist being told that he wants to get married and i am the one ..that time even i wasnt ready for a relationship but i gave time yo make oir freindship grow ..bit all of a sudden i feel ignored..waiting for calls ,replies to my msgs (which i get late as compared to earlier) making plans that ate always put off ( and its always me making them ...i tries explaining him a couple of times ..but he doesnt even try much to reach out...i can understand he can be really busy...but then i see him hanging around with freinds all the time ...then why not me ...??
|not making time for you on Dec 05, 2014 @ 09:58 pm|
If he has the time to make for his friends, but he's suddenly not bothering to make time for you, I say you talk to him about it. Have a serious conversation with him. If it doesn't get resolved, or he says there's no problem (even when you say you feel like there is, which is enough reason to change things), move on and find someone else.
|Letting go is the hard part on Dec 06, 2014 @ 12:03 pm|
Thankyou so much for your advise ...i explained to him..but theres hardly any change ...i have decided to let go ...but the worst part is hes told all his freinds abt me and i feel so discomfortable when they are around and the fact is we are in the same colg ...ill keep seeing him around which would urge me to not let go :( and i keep thinking if i make a decision to leave and he wont come after me to want me back that would really be terrible and make the whole time spent with him pointless
|stay strong on Dec 06, 2014 @ 03:19 pm|
Just remember how he treated you when you get the urge to get back together with him. College is a big place, full of other men who will give you the time of day and make you feel special, because that's what you deserve. Who cares about this guy's friends. The wording in your last sentence is confusing me and I don't really understand what you're trying to say. From what I understood from it, you want the guy to actually come after you once you break up with him, because if he doesn't that means your time together was pointless. If that is the case, please don't think that way. Your time together was not pointless, you've grown and learned from his and your mistakes.
Move on and apply your new knowledge of relationships and what you want out of a relationship on someone else. Even better, hold off on getting into a relationship right now. I think you need to be in a better position with yourself first. That means being able to trust your own judgement and knowing exactly what you want to get out of a relationship. And then being strong enough to walk away from the next guy if he doesn't offer you what you need.
|Time to move on... on Dec 06, 2014 @ 06:35 pm|
I agree completely with glumbumble's advice. Also, I feel you're too young to be thinking about marriage. You're going to experience so many new things in the next few years, give yourself time to realize who you really are before jumping in to something as serious as marriage.
|age on Dec 07, 2014 @ 10:56 am|
Age is nothing but a number, but I do agree that right now you're not in the mental place to seriously consider marriage to any guy. I got married at 21 and I'm perfectly happy and settled with my husband. That's not for everyone though, and you really need to be mature enough and confident with yourself and what you want out of a relationship and what you can contribute to a relationship before thinking about marriage. But from the sounds of your original post, you may not even be thinking about that, sounds like the guy was coming up with it for some reason. Not sure why it would even be in his thoughts with the way he was treating you.
|give it a deadline on Dec 28, 2014 @ 09:16 am|
It's about time to move on. Try your best to reach him, talk to him and be honest, but give it a deadline. If nothing has improved like a month from now, forget about him and move on. Best of luck hun.