on Aug 27, 2013 @ 12:45 pm|
I'm recently single - devastated at the loss of someone I love deeply - and am in the process of moving forward. However I realize now that unlike before, I have no idea where I am supposed to meet new people? I don't really have many single friends - most are married and have babies now. I'd love to get out there and meet new friends and potentially a new partner (but seriously not rushing to get back into a relationship). How as an adult do you suggest I do this?
|Online Dating Making Friends on Aug 27, 2013 @ 04:01 pm|
I'm so sorry to hear that! I'm glad to hear that you are beginning to move forward though.
I've been in similar situations before and that's part of what led me to online dating. There weren't any friends of friends who I could be set up with, I wasn't meeting the type of person I wanted to at bars or clubs and I was out of school (I also went to school for fashion so not exactly a whole bunch of available men there) and worked for a small company. So I decided to try it out and I was pleasantly surprised. More than anything, I was just looking for a few dates, and to just have fun. I ended up meeting my current boyfriend this way but I actually did have a lot of fun trying it out. There were a few guys I met who I still occasionally talk to as friends.
Aside from dating, meeting new friends as an adult is hard. I know. I think definitely look to any sort of class, club or group that shares your interest. There is an app called meetup where people who have the same interests meet up and discuss it. It's actually pretty cool! Try auditing a class at a university or taking a class through the city of toronto or a private class. Bring someone along as a "wingman" if necessary! Try volunteering too! I've actually met a few people while volunteering. Choose a cause or an event that you feel particularly passionate about. I volunteered for fashion week or for various fashion shows in college and met a few people I still talk to.
Lastly, I think sometimes it just takes someone to jump and take a leap to ask someone to hang out. Have an occasional lunch friend at work? Treat them to an afterwork happy hour drink! Or have a friend of a friend that you've always gotten along with? Next time you hang out, ask your friend to invite them along. I have certain god friends now that originally started as that (and I'm not even speaking to the other person anymore).
Hope that helps! Happy friend hunting!
Ali de Bold
|Non-competitive team sports on Aug 30, 2013 @ 02:48 pm|
A really great way to meet new people on Toronto is to join up with one of the social sports clubs. You don't have to be an athlete - in fact most people sign up just for social reasons. There are programs all year round. I played on a beach volleyball team and though I'm not good at it, I had a blast. People usually go for team drinks after. I highly recommend you check it out!