on Aug 23, 2013 @ 07:48 pm|
Have you ever read the local kijiji ads (In Canada)? I spend various hours at work (due to being bored at work) reading so many ads in regards to adults looking for friends. At first it was kind of comical because it was new and Ive never seen it before. Now I have a different view of it and I find it kind of sad. Why is it so hard for adults to maintain relationships? We all know that as we grow older circumstances change but why do your friends? Why is it that when you start dating someone or once you get pregnant certain friends are suddenly dropped?
Does this make sense?
|.. on Aug 26, 2013 @ 07:56 am|
Friends change for a variety of reasons, not because of boyfriends or pregnancy. That being said, as someone who does not have children, it is very hard to maintain the same level of friendship that you previously had if they have children and you do not.
I don't see why you WOULDN'T go online to see if you can meet new people - i.e friends. It's hard to meet people as you grow older and maintain friendships which are based on common interests - the friends you had growing up don't necessarily have the same interests as you, live far away etc.
I don't think it is sad, I think it's a pretty pro-active approach to finding like-minded people
|Ads are not my personal choice, but times are a'changing on Aug 26, 2013 @ 09:35 am|
The good thing about ads is that you can (hopefully!) immediately filter for the type of friend you want. If most of your besties are couch potatoes and you want someone to hike and play tennis with, this is a lot less legwork than searching out clubs in your city, etc.
In a way it's not all that different from joining sites to find like-minded people and striking up friendships that way. I've met a lot of cool people right here on ChickAdvisor, though due to geographic realities I've only had the privilege of meeting a few of them in person.
I would probably not put an ad for a friend (or romantic relationship, etc) just because I don't want to deal with the inevitable weirdos who troll these places. I don't see anything wrong with those who do place such ads, but would always advise strong caution and a healthy dose of skeptical evaluation for anyone you meet in this way until you can be sure that the contact is legit.