Does watching Shemale porn equal bi or gay?

Anonymous

I am hoping for some unbiased input about porn and a husbands preferences? I have noticed an increase in the amount of shemale porn videos being watched in my husbands history. They are amongst the regular videos that I have known to be a turn on or part of his kinky side however lately there seems to be more and more of them being viewed. We have always had a wonderful love life but I would be lying if I didn't say that I have absolutely been bothered by this and can't help to wonder if he may actually have gay desires or tendencies. Am not over reacting or do I indeed have something to be concerned about?
Mar 09, 2016 @ 02:51 pm

10 Replies


KrissiC

Hmm

Not sure. It could just be an interest in something 'different ' or a fantasy. I don't know. You could try gently bringing it up. Ask him an indirect way like 'what do you think of shemale porn?' Or you could be very frank and ask him why there's been such an increase in this. Good luck.
Mar 09, 2016 @ 03:01 pm
jcb75

Hmmm

I don't think he's gay, as I don't think he'd be much interested in the female form (born or transgender) if he was. He may be questioning his identity, or sexuality...but it may be something as small as a guy from his work happened to mention a porn he saw, and your husband was curious.
If you're concerned, talk to him. It may be awkward and weird, but for your own peace of mind, I suggest it.
Mar 09, 2016 @ 03:52 pm
b3ckb3ck

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I don't think it means anything and that you have nothing to be concerned about! From my experiences with exs and porn they get bored of the same old thing.. So they try watching something new or different!

If it bothers you though, maybe just ask him about it :)
Apr 03, 2016 @ 01:33 am
crystaljam

Curious?

Maybe he is just curious as to what it is all about.

Apparently there is porn for anything you can think of out there.

Just ask him - much more honest than checking out his history and worrying.
Apr 03, 2016 @ 08:45 am
RaeBlair

Typed on cell so sorry for any mistakes !

Your concerns are natural, and most women in your position would definitely have their minds directly run to the worry of their husband being gay, having repressed homosexual desires, or being unfulfilled by their current sexual partner and intimacy.
Don't let yourself get stuck on that course of thought! Your husbands interest in Shemale porn does not define his sexuality - sexuality is an extremely layered, complex part of a person that, in full depth, is truly not understood by anybody.
First - let's break this down in simple steps,
He watches Shemale porn because it arouses him. Arousal can be conjured by many feelings depending on the person and situation (happiness, anger, envy, admiration, love, sadness). Also, by many physical senses depending, again, on person and situation (warm touch, soft sounds, loud noises, sights, etc). Arousal is basically excitement. Naturally, when someone is exposed to something taboo or outside the norm, they feel either excitement or disgust. Sometimes both. She male porn would definitely fall in to this taboo niche... And because it is "wrong" by the "rules" of society to be or be attracted to a human being with both parts, there is excitement - that same rebellious intrigue as lifting a chocolate bar or sneaking in to an R rated movie. Because your husband is not disgusted, he is excited - and that transforms in to arousal.
It's not that he is watching because he is between deciding what parts of a human being he is interested in. And there are so many other reasons that above that he could be watching. (Dominance, curiosity, etc).
Be open minded and just talk to him. Ease in to the conversation. Maybe watch some with him - who knows if it might be a mutual interest! If it truly upsets you, be sincere and understanding while telling him this. Don't try to dissect him or infer or imply that he may be confused or gay - this actually might lead him to be, as judgment does.
BeSt of luck !
Apr 03, 2016 @ 11:58 am
RaeBlair

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Lead him to be confused *^
Apr 03, 2016 @ 11:59 am
jmca

What?

no
Apr 08, 2016 @ 07:02 pm
youssra.xo

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I don't think so but like the girls said if it bothers you that much just tlk to him.
May 04, 2016 @ 04:52 am
danikillam

Probably just a kink

It's probably just a kink, I know lots of guys into stuff like this, personally my bf and I watch porn together, we both know the weird fetishes the other has, and we indulge them from time to time. Also I would never look into his browser history. If he wants to get off to something I'm not into, he can. Good luck though!
Jun 10, 2016 @ 12:05 am
rachelr

confused

im going through the same problem
Aug 26, 2016 @ 05:12 am

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