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Ladies (and guys), what are your opinions on men who pay women for sex (whether it be actual sex or just a 'massage')?
Personally, I think it absolutely disgusting...not only that someone could be so desperate as to pay an escort/prostitute, but also that they would want to have sex with a woman who was probably servicing ten guys that day before you came over.
I know someone who goes to these women, and every time I think about that it grosses me out so much and makes me want nothing to do with them.
So please tell me - what exactly is it about going to a woman who has sex with tons of men everyday and paying her, that is so 'sexy?'
Apr 22, 2007 @ 04:32 pm

57 Replies

Ali de Bold

I agree

I doubt any prostitute or escort is thrilled about her occupation, but I also agree that there needs to be protection for those who are in that industry.
Jul 09, 2008 @ 10:26 pm

There are always exceptions

I cannot speak for the men, but have any of you heard of the Secret Diary of a Call Girl? It's actually a very popular blog of an escort who loves doing what she does - she wasn't forced into it or anything. It's now on Showtime starring Billie Piper. Very interesting!
Aug 05, 2008 @ 02:20 pm

i think it's ok

I'm not a guy, of course, and i wouldn't pay for sex, but if it's consensual, why not do it? There are plenty of sex workers, female and male, who don't mind their jobs, and even more that actually enjoy them. Of course, the ones that are in it because they feel forced, need to be helped. But i wouldn't assume that just because you are a sex worker that you're being taken advantage of.
Aug 28, 2008 @ 02:07 am


Has anyone watched Mob Wives of Chicago? One of the women on that show is a stripper, and she's like 40 years old and has a kid. She's been doing it FOREVER, and lives in a nice place, has nice things, and pretty much doesn't say no to herself very often. Considering the amount of money she's made doing what she does, I find it very hard to believe it would've been so hard for her to get an education and switch jobs. People just don't want to walk away from it, because after a while they realize they will not make the same amount of money doing anything else, because they are either not smart enough or talented enough to do so. So they will continue doing something that's disgusting in the eyes of society, and continue to tell themselves they have no other options, when really they do, they just are too used to the lifestyle to give it up. I'm not saying its easy to make the right choice. I'm 22, and I'm living on my own, working, at times 3 different jobs and going to college. It sucks. I get paid minimum wage and I can only afford to go see my mom once a year. I live in a bad neighbourhood and my apartment building is infested with mice and cockroaches, and they are not going away no matter what I do. I could probably switch jobs and be a stripper at the strip club thats 5 minutes away from my house and have a much more comfortable life, a better income and a nicer place to live. Does that mean I'm going to? Hell no. I'm not going to give up on myself now so I can regret it for the rest of my life. You have to realize no amount of Botox is going to keep you young forever.
Oct 28, 2012 @ 05:02 pm
Ali de Bold


Well said! Good for you that you are working so hard to get yourself through school. I did the same thing and it was well worth it. You will never regret working hard and honorably.

Damnnearnaked, first of all - love the username. Second, it's not the people, it's the profession. I feel sorry for anyone who is in that profession, or anyone who has to use it.
Oct 29, 2012 @ 10:09 am


I'm going to probably be against the grain here, but I see nothing wrong with it, if these women are content to subject themselves to that and these men choose to go this route, that's their choice.

I think it's not always a matter of men that can't get a woman of their own accord, and more about restrictions. Some men don't want the problems that come with relationships, even one-night stands, so they opt for 100% no strings attached methods of getting their release.

For some men it's more about a particular fetish then anything else. Some yet, it's the taboo aspect of it that gets them to do it. Some it's a time thing, they just don't genuinely have the time to search for a woman for one night, truck drivers typically fall into this category, they aren't usually in one place for long, so if they get lonely and have to be at their next drop by a certain time, they don't have the luxury of time to go out to a club, meet a woman that wants a one night stand, or look for someone on-line. So they go to a brothel.

While this may not be my idea of a good time, nor would i want to be with someone who frequents these establishments, I also am not going to judge someone for their choices, especially based on stereotypes.
Oct 30, 2012 @ 02:17 pm


I don't have a great opinion about men right now but I think this is gross.
Feb 11, 2013 @ 10:58 pm

To each their own.

Personally, I would never resort to that. But, to each their own..
Feb 13, 2013 @ 07:10 am

To each their own

I choose not to judge. As long is the woman or man providing the service is fully consenting and not being forced or demeaned (or worse), and the customer is not sneaking around behind someone's back - then it's none of my concern. It's not something I am personally interested in doing - and would find it to be cheating if my partner was to seek out such services.

However I caution people on rash judgments on the sex trade industry because that is part of what locks people into it - they are judged and provided no other options to get out They are people providing a service that is clearly wanted. Prostitution is, after all, the oldest profession.

I agree that we should offering education, support and other proactive social programs/services to prevent men and women from feeling like the sex industry is their only option. But if this is their chosen vocation at the end of the day, as long as it is respectful, safe for both parties and honest then it is not for me to pass judgement.

I think legalizing prostitution in Canada, have safe brothels where there is security and STI testing is a way to move forward and help these men and women stay safe.

I also think it's unfair for us to criticize prostitutes harshly, but then ignore or trivialize the women and men who date for goods, freebies, status etc. Is that not just a less honest way of prostituting oneself?

Looking at the sex industry with your own morality and background isn't necessarily fair because there is so much more in the lives of the workers and the customers than we know just by this small portion of their lives. When you point a finger, there are 3 pointing back at you (as my mother used to say).
Oct 01, 2013 @ 12:16 pm

I know a woman..

I work at a hotel, a pretty sleezy one to be exact. There's actually a lot of prostitution going on around here. I became friends with one in the months of me working here and it made me understand her a little, though it could never be me. Basically she LITERALLY had no where to go. Her pimp, a 63 year old gangster man, might I add killed someone in the 70s and chopped up their body. (I know this for a fact because she had me google it and it was the same guy who's room she was staying in) The reason I mentioned that is, if she leaves. He would probably actually do something to her. She used to come down in the lobby all hours (I work 3rd shift) and actually cry to me about how pathetic she felt. She was such a strong person, yet so weak at the same time. She would take pride in the amounts of money she made, she seemed to have felt like the more money she made, the more power she thought she had to leave and run away if she could. Such a twisted mind though.. She still loved her "husband" as she called him. There were a lot more details to this story but basically this woman lived her whole life fighting for survival, her mom screwed her over financially in every way, she lost her license, can't get a real job because she's been in and out in and out of jail, and lives her whole life in hotels so she has no references or solid jobhistory in order to really start a life for herself. Sometimes people don't realize that once you get stuck, you're stuck. Really stuck. The stories she would tell me. I really understood her fear and it was strange because she was juggling her confidence. She was being beaten down and risen up all from the same situation. The crazy part is, she had the personality to be awesome in life, to really flourish, but track record, fear, and lack of self respect made it near impossible for her to get out.Prostitution is sad, but it's going to happen. I recently went to a foreign country where it was legal and those prostitutes were actually really well taken care of. Medical, housing, etc. I think its not the best and I don't agree with it, but I think it should be legal after age 18 for self adult consent, because either way, it's happening, shouldn't we protect those women and if they're sleeping around like that anyways, it would be easier access to medical help, and less likely of crimes and wars over it. If it were turned into a business, that would actually probably protect these women atleast BETTER than what they're doing now, they not only could tax on it, but these women would be free to make their own choices over their own bodies and hey, we'd have less unemployment rates, less women who could claim welfare while making "such money" AND less unwanted pregnancies and more protection against STD's and violence. They could drug test their "employees" often and I think it would clean up A LOT of things in that type of situation.
Mar 26, 2014 @ 01:10 am

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