My Man His Pan


My ex boyfriend is obsessed with making eggs and ham. I thought it was cute at first and so every morning we ate egss and ham and don't get me was not bad. It was tasty! We had been dating for 1 year and the whole man and his pan thing never bothered me until about 4 months ago.....

He said he wanted to hire a female chef assistant to live with us and help him cook. (He only cooks for a hobby mind you!) So I thought it would be great...he hires an assistant (I am expecting some frumpy 60 year old woman who is kinder than kind and just cooks for us)

Then the next week there is this girl who looks uber familiar in my kitchen (My bf lives with me) and she is wearing the mini skirt and bandeau top and a little hot pink chef hat that reads "Chic Chef Babe" so then she turns around and guess who it is!? It is brothers ex wife. She is like 26 or something. It was the MOST awkward this ever!!! I don't know what made me feel more uncomfortable my boyfriend having a little lady friend ramping around my kitchen or the fact that my boyfriends lady friend was my brothers ex wife!!!!!! It was all very disturbing for me. I am 21 years old..... I am relatively new to the whole dating scene...this guy was my 2nd serious boy friend!

I sent her out of the house just like THAT and then dumped him on the spot without thinking. I think now him and Isla (my bro's ex wife) are going out and it has only been a few months! I feel so many mixed emotions I do not know what to do!? Did I dump him to fast!??!?! Do I try and get hime back!? Please help me!!!!
Jul 14, 2011 @ 10:22 am

6 Replies


Whoa nelly

Okay first of all, I'm trying to wrap my head this story.

So you guys agreed to let someone LIVE with you and do your cooking (and presumably pay this person). If you are going to hire live-in help, you should have shared the responsibility of interviewing and hiring the person, no matter who's doing the paying.

I'm definitely not saying any of this is your fault, but since you admitted you're new to this sort of thing, this is a good lesson for if a similar situation should ever arise.

I don't blame you at all for asking the woman to leave. You don't really give enough details about your relationship, but it seems to me that if things were peachy you probably would not have reacted so strongly. If you regretted it the next day, you would have tried to get him back, but you don't mention this so I don't know.

I think the bottom line is it sounds like you two were not on the same page. It actually doesn't matter that she's your brother's ex - she's a beautiful woman trotting around your kitchen wearing inappropriate work clothes. Remember: she's supposedly your employee, even if your BF was doing the paying.

I think it's good that you got out of it. Maybe a bit messy, but the end result is the same.
Jul 14, 2011 @ 10:39 am


That is a silly story! I think you made the right choice though.
Jul 14, 2011 @ 03:21 pm


I haven't heard of something like this before, honestly.

You don't give enough detail for me to be able to give you great advice but from what I know is that you where obviously not too serious about this relationship if you where willing to dump him because he hired a skanky cook.

You two should have agreed on who would be hired and he decided to take the hottest one.

he isn't worth your time.
Aug 04, 2011 @ 01:15 pm
The Fashion P.A.

I think you did the right thing...

The fact the girl was your brother's ex-wife would be the deal breaker for me. Not, right..
Aug 04, 2011 @ 01:57 pm

Don't think twice! You definitely made the right move.

I find it very disrespectful of him to hire such a woman to help cook in the kitchen. I read your story twice just to make sure I got it right and I think the entire situation is absolutely ridiculous. It took a lot of nerve for him to do that. I think it shows he did not respect your relationship and you are much better off without him.
Aug 09, 2011 @ 09:51 pm

Something sound fishy

I think you two should have sat down, went over potential candidates and chose one together. Him suggesting a live-in chef (probably knowing he wanted his bro's ex wife) is real dirty and disturbing. I am totally on your side in dumping his a**. What a sleeze-ball! I hope you find someone who respects you and is truthful to you in the future. Don't even think about getting back with this guy!! He has too many things up his sleeve.
Nov 11, 2011 @ 06:01 pm

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