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Should I be upset about naked pics?


So I've been seeing this guy for a few months now. He is great as far as telling me how beautiful I am and how he misses me and so on. However, I found some pictures of naked girls on his phone. I also saw some messages to and from a couple chicks that were very sexual when we first started seeing each other. I am terrified of how much I already care for him and he end up making me look like a fool. Since seeing this it makes me question just how much of what he says is true. Can I trust him? Does he really care for me? These are all questions that keep me up at night and make me wonder if I should even bother getting anymore emotionally involved. Help!
Nov 01, 2017 @ 02:52 am

3 Replies


It's individual, it's valid!

First of all, there is no right answer. Your feelings are valid and you're not wrong to be upset.
However, here are a few things to think about in making a decision in regards to if you want to keep seeing him.
What "is" your relationship? By seeing each other, are you in a relationship, is it casual, are you going on casual dates? Are you on the same page about this and is it established? If he thought that in the beginning, you weren't in an official relationship, I PERSONALLY wouldn't fault him for talking sexually to other girls because it seems like you were just on a different page.
I suggest you talk to him and establish what your relationship means to each other. Tell him (if this is how you feel) that you have serious feelings for him and you need to know how he feels because you don't want to take it further if he doesn't feel the same.
Be honest about looking at his phone. He may be upset, and he has a right to be. But you can't change the past. You shouldn't be looking through his things, but he shouldn't be hiding things from you. Apologize to him, and tell him why you did it - unfortunately, it confirmed your fears. :(

I hope this helped. Just be honest with him and have a real conversation. That is always the best advice.

I wish you the best! <3
Nov 01, 2017 @ 04:22 am

You're answers are the ones that matter most.

Part of me wants to scream run! But that's because I've been there.

But you need to take into consideration of how old these pictures are, if he even knows they're still on his phone, and if he is still active with these other girls.

If you are questioning if you can trust him, chances are you don't. You need to follow your gut. Not one person can sway your opinion, not even HIM! If you don't think this is the type of person you envisioned yourself with, then you make that choice for yourself.

Every woman is worth waiting for the man that finds her, works for her, and doesn't need to look twice at another girl.

Know your worth!


Apr 23, 2018 @ 11:35 am

Are you two exclusive?

You haven’t said whether both of you are exclusive or you are just dating at this point. If there are no ties and you are just dating, then he is doing nothing wrong. But if he is your boyfriend then this is an issue. You need to have a talk with him.
Apr 19, 2020 @ 01:32 am

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