Recognizing strengths, acknowledging weaknesses

mamaluv

I am trying to make an important decision about my future these days. There is something I'd like to try that I think I'd be good at, but I am a terrible judge of such things.

How do you ladies discern between something you are suited for and something you want really badly but actually suck at? My family has been very supportive when I've mentioned the idea to them, but my family would support me in just about any venture I would suggest. I'm nervous because this would come with a certain amount of risk (I know, you have to risk it now and then...), but I have a young family and have to consider them as well.
Feb 03, 2007 @ 01:11 am

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Ali de Bold

You only live once

So live the life you were meant to live. If you don't try something that you really want to do you always have to wonder "What if?" I'd go for it!
Feb 03, 2007 @ 01:46 am
artist

Feel the fear, and do it anyway.

We all have dreams we want to aspire to, but there is always the fear to hold us back. I totally know what you mean. I recently picked up the book Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway by Susan Jeffers. It has many tips and suggestions on how to overcome those obstacles to get to where we really want to.

I know you do have to think about your family, but if you really want to go for something, I don't think you should let responsibility stop you from taking a risk. take the risk, but with responsibility! :)
Feb 03, 2007 @ 12:57 pm
MizzRobin

Go for it...

My favorite quote has always been: It would not be right to dream, while forgetting to live, it seems; Nor would it be right to dwell on life, and yet forget our dreams....

Having said that, I think you should give it a shot. It sounds like your family is backing you and if sounds like it is something you really want to do. Give it a try so at least that way you know.
Feb 04, 2007 @ 04:33 pm
MizzRobin

Oops

I meant to say: It sounds like your family is backing you and IT sounds like it is something you really want to do. Give it a try so at least that way you know. :o) I need to proofread things before hitting submit damn it! Sorry.
Feb 04, 2007 @ 04:34 pm
mamaluv

this is all true, however...

I don't know that it's so much fear holding me back as a concern that what I think I might be good at is not actually true.

The other night I had a "difference of opinion" with my husband. We were very calm, and I thought I made some great points during the discussion. At the end of it, he looked at me and said, "C, you suck at debating!" Of course, I happened to think the same of him...:-)

Okee dokee. So my question is, how do you guys figure out if you're great at something or simply delusional?
Feb 05, 2007 @ 06:37 pm
MizzRobin

tough one...

That is a tough one. I normally do one of two things...I either give it a shot (if I don't have a lot to lose) or I listen to my gut... I think most of the time we internally know the answer to stuff like this but don't know how to filter out the outside noise and tap into our gut feeling on an issue. Sorry I know that may not be very helpful... Really and truly if you don't trust your gut the only way you will know is to get out there and try. You soud like you have put a lot of thought into it so it's not like you are being rash and just jumping into it.
Feb 08, 2007 @ 11:41 am
Ali de Bold

I agree with MizzRobin

If you really want to do something you probably should at least give it a shot. I'd rather make a fool of myself than wonder what if. I hate regrets. That's partially why we launched this site. We knew it would be really tough with me in school full time but I knew I'd regret it if we didn't.

Don't hold yourself back from your dreams. Often we are our own worst enemies that way. If it's not right for you, you probably already know that deep down.
Mar 04, 2007 @ 12:34 pm

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