Any suggestions out there to help me to stop drinking? (besides AA)

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I am desperate to lose weight but unless I stop drinking a bottle of wine every night it is not going to happen. I've had a very stressful past 3 years and found that I could look forward to my wine every night and that would get me through the day.  I don't consider myself an alcoholic but I have been misusing alcohol for sure.  Has anyone tried anything that actually makes you not want to drink?  Some kind of pill or shock therapy....something?
Mar 18, 2013 @ 01:50 pm

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Stress Relief

Unfortunately, I don't think there are any 'magic' remedies for something like this. I would recommend speaking to your doctor and asking for a recommendation for a therapist. If you're drinking because of stress, it might be more stress relieving to talk to someone and a professional will also be able to help you replace your stress drinking with something else to relieve stress.
Mar 18, 2013 @ 02:37 pm

take care of yourself

I also appreciate a glass of wine at the end of a hectic day, and especially as you say it's been a stressful couple of years, I can understand the temptation for the soothing effects of a drink.

But girl, a bottle of wine every night is a problem. No judging here, this is just keeping it real. While a bigger girl can handle more alcohol than someone more slender, a whole bottle is an awful lot. I feel relaxing effects after 1 glass and am tipsy after the 2nd glass. If you're drinking an entire bottle and you've been doing this every day for 3 years, I don't think it's a far stretch that your doctor might well define this as alcoholism. You need help.

Help reducing your alcohol intake, yes, but more importantly, help dealing with whatever stressor is driving your need to wash it all away. Until you deal with the root problem, you will think you need the help of wine or whatever takes its place. Wine can have beneficial effects when consumed in moderation depending on your personal health situation, but we all know that those beneficial effects don't matter if you're doing damage elsewhere, like your liver.

Getting back to your original question, other ways to deal with stress include exercise (produces endorphins which make you feel happier), spending time with friends/family/pets, spending time outdoors, adjusting your diet (certain foods elevate your energy and balance your digestive system), etc. I know these are all also lifestyle changes which in the face of major stress can be difficult to maintain. However, if you can stick with them you'll not only be healthier but also happier!

I really hope you find the help you need and deserve. Get better, girlfriend! Drowning your sorrows is not dealing. It's an unhealthy coping mechanism and leads down a dark road.
Mar 18, 2013 @ 02:57 pm
Ali de Bold

Heavy drinking

First of all, I think it's great that you are asking for help. That's the first step to fixing the situation.

Just to give you some facts, you would be considered a heavy/excessive drinker. For women, having more than 2 drinks per day or 5 or more at a time is considered heavy drinking. For wine consumption, the Heart and Stroke foundation defines a drink as one 5oz glass.

By drinking a bottle a day, you are having the equivalent of just over 5 drinks per day.

This considerably ups your risks for all sorts of health problems in addition to the weight gain, such as heart disease and stroke. You are also increasing your risks for certain types of cancers, specifically head and neck cancers, breast cancer, colon cancer, and liver cancer. I'm sure you are also aware of the risks to your liver, such as liver disease or cirrhosis of the liver.

Basically, you need to get this sorted out now. I can certainly relate to that feeling of wanting a glass of wine at the end of the day. It's part of my usual routine when I'm not pregnant. But as soon as it becomes something you can't do without, you need to get serious because you are no longer in control.

I think an easy first step would be to talk to your Doctor and ask for suggestions. There is no shame in getting help and as far as I know, the point of alcoholics anonymous is to get support. I know someone who went public about her struggle to get sober and I think it would be helpful for you to read what she wrote about her experience.

Big hugs to you and know that we are here to support you. Here is the link:
Mar 18, 2013 @ 09:51 pm


I was just on a medication prescription for an infection, and the pharmacist told me that I could not drink while using it. She said it had an ingredient that was used for recovering alcoholics, as it would make you incredibly sick if you tasted alcohol.. I'm not entirely sure what it was, but the trout of being super sick from alcohol made me stay clear for the 10 days (and quite a few more days afterwards). Maybe that could be something that you can look into?
Mar 19, 2013 @ 07:02 am

Find the root of the problem!

I agree with everyone else...when it becomes something you are no longer in control of, it's a "problem" and not just a habit. That being said, I also think it's great that you recognize this is something that needs to change!

You mentioned that you want a remedy that isn't AA ... do you have a reason why? Have you tried this and it hasn't worked, or are you worried that going to AA will officially define you as an alcoholic? I just know a few people who have gone to AA and it's really helped them out.

I'm going to tell you right now that there's never a quick fix or miracle cure when it comes to addiction. It's usually a long and hard road to recovery, but know that it's a path you need to take. I'd talk to your doctor first, because I know your body can become physically dependent on substances over long-term use, so i'd check and see what advice they could give you about cutting down.

Again, you need to get to the root of the problem. You said you've been really stressed, so figuring out WHY you need to drink every night will be the first step to not needing that crutch. You also mentioned you wanted to lose weight, so maybe try doing a swap...instead of drinking every night, go to the gym every night. This will help relieve stress, help you get in shape, and give you time to think about a lot of stuff.

Best of luck to you!!
Mar 19, 2013 @ 06:29 pm

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