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I wasn't worried until I was 3 days late!


I broke up with my boyfriend in March, my period was supposed to come that Thursday/Friday but due to the stress and losing about 5 lbs in 3 days, it came on the 15th, one day late. 

Things with my boyfriend and I have been getting better, we're talking again, and we did end up getting physical on the 5th of April. That was the only time anything happened between us this cycle. It wasn't something I was concerned about at all. Here's basically what happened:

Dry sex, in which he had boxers/shorts on and I had underwear/jeans. He fingered me, in which case the jeans came off so I was down to my underwear but he was still fully clothed. I can't remember if I blew him right after or if we went back to grinding for a while but either way he still had his boxers/underwear on so it isn't a concern. Anyway after I blew him I think we just laid there for a bit, clothed, and then I probably went to the bathroom. It was all very run-of-the-mill same-shit-different-day never-gotten-me-pregnant before stuff. 

I'm a very anxious person and I've gotten to the point of crying and feeling very pregnant and very hopeless every single month, but this month, I wasn't worried in the least! However... now I'm 3 days late. I'm accounting for the "latest possible day" I could be expecting it, which was Saturday. By Sunday night I had started the water works.. Monday was an absolute blur of being very, very scared and very, very teary. Today, Tuesday, I've sort of gotten a grip. I'm not pregnant, how could I be? 

Then again, I'm pretty regular. My cycles vary by a day. Literally a day. It either comes Thursday or Friday, it only came on a Saturday last month because of the high emotional stress and weight loss. Being 3 days late for the first time, I can't come up with a good reason. My period has been there through thick and thin, there was nothing in this month I could reasonably see as something to make me late. 

I'm going to test this Saturday if it hasn't come to just assure myself I'm not pregnant. I have this crazy scenarios I'm trying not to entertain such as "What if I had sperm on my hands and I wiped after using the bathroom?" or "What if when we cuddled some sperm got on my underwear?" Both of which make no sense, and aren't really risks anyway. 

I mainly am just writing this to get support so I don't start crying again. I hate feeling this way. I had all the symptoms of getting it. I was hungry as hell the week before my expected period, I had sore boobs that have since gone away, and I broke out with some minor acne. However, it has yet to show up.

To summarize:
Is it at all possible that I might be pregnant? Maybe you see something in what we did that might be risky.

Do periods just come late for no reason at all? Could my cycle length be switching up, or could the emotional stress of last month be finally catching up?

I usually am around 105 lbs, but I have gone down to 101-100 lbs. I'm naturally skinny and my weight has never affected my period. I don't believe I'm "too thin" to stop getting my period, but do you think being 5'5 and 101 lbs could have something to do with it? I've been around 103-100 lbs for a few months now and they still came. Which is why I personally rule this one out. 

Like I said before, I get very, very anxious. A lot of my friends are like me, heck, probably a lot of girls who aren't my friends are like me too! I've talked to my friends about how they were late, they freaked out, and it came anyway. I can only hope that's the case here. I'm baffled and scared and nervous. Thanks for your feed back. [Smile]
Apr 15, 2014 @ 03:16 pm

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Get a grip, you are pretty high strung girl. Sounds like you are causing yourself all kinds of stress. If you are not willing to accept the consequences stay away from that thing! If you are always this anxious it is amazing anything in your life is regular. Relax a little, it will be fine!
Apr 16, 2014 @ 12:58 pm

Hard to say

I'm not a doctor, so this is just my personal opinion.

Stress can definitely make problems with your period timing. Just because it's always been regular does not mean it will always stay that way.

Based on what you said, I think it's probably extremely unlikely that you are pregnant.

The weight loss is possibly a factor too. Your BMI is really low, and even though you were regular at 105lbs, going down to 100ish is very slender for 5 ft 5 inches. I would not be surprised if your body hit kind of a critical point where it stops menses. Just think about it: there is "that point" and just because it's close-ish to your norm does not exclude the possibility that you've been on the verge of losing your period this entire time.

I'm not saying you're unhealthy :) Just that your BMI is low. This is a ratio, not an opinion. According to WebMD (a fairly respectable source in my opinion), a BMI of 18.5 or lower can cause period irregularity. Your BMI based on 5'5" and 100 lbs would be 16.6 (17.5 if you weigh 105 lbs). Both of these measurements are, by WebMD's definition, inside the range where you could start to see changes in your menstruation.

So my 2 cents is that your stress plus low BMI are probably teaming up and messing with your cycle. Try to alleviate your stress and maybe (just a very friendly and very careful advice!) go back to your normal weight.

Good luck :)
Apr 16, 2014 @ 01:22 pm

Got it!

@Ddgurl - tough love much? I did end up "getting a grip," i told myself this is ridiculous, and sure enough this morning I got it. :)

@mamaluv - Thank you for the kind and thoughtful reply. I had no idea that a BMI lower than 18.5 can cause irregularity. That would make sense, I suppose, since I've only been 100 - 101 lbs for about 2 months now. It isn't like I'm not eating, my appetite may be decreased or perhaps I eat less than I really think I do. Either way I will make sure I am eating healthy and wholesome things so as not to cause problems in the future.

I did end up getting my period wednesday morning - 4 days late, but here!
Apr 16, 2014 @ 07:58 pm
Ali de Bold

Getting pregnant isn't that easy

I'm glad you are ok and that you didn't get pregnant. But based on what you said, it would have been impossible for you to conceive in that scenario since you were both fully clothed and his sperm was nowhere near your body.

Take care of yourself and make sure you are getting enough to eat and not letting yourself get too stressed out. xoxo
Apr 16, 2014 @ 08:12 pm

Great ending

I was about to write and reassure you that it was. to possible to be pregnant considering the circumstances but I guess you know that now ????.Glad it turned out and please take care of yourself.
Apr 16, 2014 @ 09:29 pm

Glad to hear

I'm happy to hear that everything worked out for you in the end :)
Apr 17, 2014 @ 09:33 am

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