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I saw this youtube video of the Tyra Banks show:

Basically it's about children (some below the age of 5 if I remember correctly!) who have decided that they are not the gender they're born into. Their parents accept them as "transgendered" and bring them up as the opposite gender.  So they still have the physicality of their birth sex, but they think they are the opposite sex.

What do you think of this?
Dec 29, 2010 @ 04:55 pm

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I know of a child

that does not call himself a girl but anyone that meets him can tell 'something' is different. One day he may label himself but right now he is happy just 'being'. He wears his hair long and loves dangly earrings. He doesnt have any strong feminine or masculine 8 years old actions - like the typical into makeup and barbies OR into superheros and trucks. He very quiet, likes TV and video games, has an odd fashion style - wears flipflops year round and a bathrobe to school. He is the son of a friend and she accepts him as is (although has had him accessed with psychologists to cover the bases.) In time he may choose a orientation of his own but for now he is just an individual.
Dec 29, 2010 @ 06:09 pm
Ali de Bold

That's tough

I haven't heard of that but can only imagine how hard that is for the kid and the parents. I just hope people are kind to this child and anyone in that situation.
Dec 30, 2010 @ 04:23 pm

I've heard of this before

This is a tough call to make when not in the situation. I truly believe that parents should accept their children no matter what their orientation (though sadly some parents may not), but when a child starts this at 2 or 3 years old, I can understand that some parents would be confused and dismiss it as a phase.

I can't help but feel sad for these kids as they will likely be targets for teasing in schools.
Dec 30, 2010 @ 04:56 pm

Im praying for them

It is very interesting to see this.

I know how hard it can be being Gay, Bi, or Trans,,,,

The world is becoming more understanding, but hasn't fully reached the point of acceptance. So some teasing and bullying is pretty much unavoidable.

I am praying for these dear children and hope they have it easier than some people I have known.

They deserve a good life too, one filled with love like everyone else.

People are people
Jan 02, 2011 @ 03:04 pm

There are many out there...

Doctors actually classify this as a disorder and people are having operations to change their private parts to the gender that they desired. I hope society will be more accepting of this in the near future because I truly believe that some people are just born in the wrong gender. This isn't a phase where someone will get over it. All the cases that I've heard, the child, as young as 2 show signs of dressing and behaving in the other gender and was unable to identify themselves with the gender that they were born into. Many of these individuals grow up in life feeling like outcasts and often turn to committing suicide. As a society, we need to be educated and come to understand and even accept that this is okay.
May 19, 2011 @ 05:01 pm

Not a bad idea...

I've heard many children who've identified another sex as their gender, and it's hard trying to cope with what you are not comfortable with. I think it's great that society is more socially acceptive of children being able to choose their own gender. I just hope the media doesn't try and market it out of proportion though!
May 26, 2011 @ 10:46 am

I am in no place to judge but

I just don't know about this. I'm one of those people that believe you're born into the gender you are for a reason. Embrace it! It's hard for me to wrap my head around this. I do hope these kids are not bullied or given a hard time, no one deserves that. And now more than ever we've seen how drastic the consequences of bullying can be.

I read the other day about parents who have chosen to raise their kids as "genderless". http://www.ctv.ca/CTVNews/TopStories/20110526/genderless-baby-storm-110526/
I'm not so sure about this idea either but I think I'm a little bit more skeptical about this just because then this child doesn't have a say in anything. To me, this seems like this kid will be 10 years old and thinking, "What the heck is going on here? Where do I belong then?". Knowing your gender seems to me it'd give you a sense of self, no?

But I also read later in this article that these parents also pushed all their mattresses together and sleep in the same room and bed as the kids. Has anyone seen Away We go? Because that reminds me of that family they visited that doesn't believe in strollers. lol "I love my babies. Why would I want to PUSH them away from me?"
May 26, 2011 @ 11:18 am

I don't agree with raising genderless children either

I feel like raising genderless children are in part, for attention. I have heard psychologists in another country tried this with their child as an experiment to see how the child will turn out. These people who are raising their kid like this can only hide so much. They are raising their child to be subjected to bullying.

Also, the people who are comfortable living in another gender chose to live that way. If the child decides that he or she identifies with the other gender, then the parents can change their style of living accordingly. What is the point of raising children genderless? I just don't really get it...

May 26, 2011 @ 11:42 am

not cool

@Beachbabe, I completely agree with you. I think we're born into our gender for a reason.

When I was a toddler if anyone would ask me "what does a chicken/cow/duck do" I would cluck/moo/quack like a chicken/cow/duck. Thank dear God my mother didn't raise me as a farm animal though!!

Kids are known for their imagination, it's not educated or enlightened to allow them to shape their life according to their imaginings.

Being bi/gay is a choice you make when you're old enough to make a choice. I don't hate adults for the choice they make on themselves, as long as they're not hurting someone else. I don't agree with it, but I don't agree with a lot of things, doesn't mean I have to hate everything I don't agree with.

I DON'T hate these kids, obviously! But I think their parents can handle the situation in a much better way, other than to raise the child as the opposite sex (or sexless, not sure which is worse).

Kids will have identity crisis all through growing up, I'm sure most if not all of us have faced this. I think it's better to teach the child to love the person they are. You're a girl, but you're YOU. You define what a girl is, you make up your own rules. Doesn't mean you're a boy or a chicken, you're still a girl, but you're YOU.

I love how enlightenment and education gets pulled into debates like this. Reminds me of the Emperors new Clothes....
May 26, 2011 @ 12:59 pm

You have a point with genderless children...

I'm not sure if the parents in that article that @beachbabe shared were doing it for "experimental" purposes....However you all do have a point.

I think this is just an extreme case that the media decided to publicize, which could make changing your gender when you are older to make a decision more acceptable.

Storm is very cute though :).
May 26, 2011 @ 02:21 pm

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