HELLLLPPPPP!!! Starting to potty train my two year old daughter and can't seem to get her to be interested at all..any tips or suggestions????
May 02, 2012 @ 07:22 pm

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The Power of Positivity in Potty Training

Hello Nicole670,

Sorry the little lady is not cooperating yet. I just recently potty trained my two year old son over one weekend after months of failure. During those months of failure, I had to constantly remind my wife and two older daughters to stop asking him if he has to go and just walk him over and happily sit him down once or twice every hour. And of course never, ever, say in any way, shape, or form, "you better not go potty on yourself". You're pretty much reminding the child to go potty on themselves by saying those words. But as with any family, it's difficult to get everyone on the same page. So when my wife and daughters went away for a Girl Scout camping trip I decided I would potty train our son no matter what in those three days.

First, I got rid of all pampers, training pants, and pull ups. Yes, we had some messy moments.Whenever he wasn't interested, I'd just give him hugs, kisses and tell him "it's ok, you can do it", while sitting him on the potty and not asking him if he has to go. I think that question is a little confusing and sometimes stressful for them because they don't fully understand the feeling of having to go yet.

As I'm sure you've observed thus far, the way to get it done is through positivity. I know it's tough when you are up to your elbows in pee and poo, but it works like magic. A friend of mine payed $500 for some weekend potty training group to do what I did for free while bonding with my baby as a bonus.

Now, I'm a dad, a former U.S. Marine and Police Officer in the most violent city in America, so this method was very uncomfortable to me at first. But he (Aiden) can read through the BS. If he sensed I was angry or irritated and just faking it... he would fight me and refuse to sit on the potty. But when I really let my Mary Poppins out, it worked everytime and he at least tried to go potty.

Two months later, he is 2 years and 4 months and goes to the potty on his own. We have relapses here and there but I notice that being positive and supportive (it's ok son, we'll get it in the potty next time) get's him back on track everytime.
May 08, 2012 @ 06:32 pm

find a Bribe!

Hope you're having some luck since over a month ahs passed since you begin this thread. It was a nighmare training my son, started at two, and it just never seemed to catch on. When he was almost three my daughter was born and I decided for sure I was not going to be changing two kids in diapers! I found giving him a kinder surprise egg after every potty break was the trick. Every kiddo has their price, just find out what yours wants more then anything and bribe away! Be prepaired to stock up, by the time we were done I swear we spent more on Kinder Eggs then we did on our mortgage! The good news is my daughter has just turned three and with a little help from her potty trained brother it was completly effortless to get her to use it!
Jun 10, 2012 @ 03:32 pm

Listen to your daughter

Honestly if she is not interested then she is not ready to potty train yet.
Here are some helpful signs to show that she is ready:

Physical signs

Is coordinated enough to walk, and even run, steadily.

Urinates a fair amount at one time.

Has regular, well-formed bowel movements at relatively predictable times.

Has "dry" periods of at least two hours or during naps, which shows that his bladder muscles are developed enough to hold urine.

Behavioral signs

Can sit down quietly in one position for two to five minutes.

Can pull his pants up and down.

Dislikes the feeling of wearing a wet or dirty diaper.

Shows interest in others' bathroom habits (wants to watch you go to the bathroom or wear underwear).

Gives a physical or verbal sign when he's having a bowel movement such as grunting, squatting, or telling you.

Demonstrates a desire for independence.

Takes pride in his accomplishments.

Isn't resistant to learning to use the toilet.

Is in a generally cooperative stage, not a negative or contrary one.

Cognitive signs

Understands the physical signals that mean he has to go and can tell you before it happens or even hold it until he has time to get to the potty.

Can follow simple instructions, such as "go get the toy."

Understands the value of putting things where they belong.

Has words for urine and stool.

I have potty trained many kids. I do find that a sticker chart helps, so they can physically see an instant reward every time they go. Having your daughter pick her stickers out would help her feel part of the process. Once the chart is full then i give a reward for filling the chart up too and they get to keep the chart covered in their stickers!

Jun 10, 2012 @ 04:31 pm

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