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I would like to some advice on mom-to-be or any women that already got pregnant.

How long did it take you to get pregnant? I know it can get some times but how it can be possible that for my mom and my aunt they got pregnant pretty much right after they got married or whenever they wanted and for me I have been trying for around 4 months now and nothing? I stopped the bc about 7 months ago so my body should be good by now.

I am really starting to get anxious to know if maybe I can have babies or not.  I am not old but not young either.  Is that could be the problem? I know doctors says that they don't stress before you tried for a year but I don't want to wait that long and that they tell me that I am infertile!

How can you improve your chances of becoming pregnant?

Aug 19, 2010 @ 11:41 am

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just from my experience...

... so take it with a mountain of salt.

My first baby was not planned, but as we were happily married and stable, we were happy about it. My second baby came 5 years later, 4 years in the "trying". When we decided to go for baby #3, we were shocked that it only took 4 months.

Many of my friends have struggled with infertility, both those who have been on the Pill and others who never touched it. It's one of those things that can be affected by many things, including: being overweight, being underweight (or even just very athletic), stress, genes, a disease/infection, your diet, and much more. Then of course, it could be a problem with the Mister. Needless to say, my hubby refused to be tested for possible low sperm count.

I could tell you about so many couples I know that were infertile for 5-10 years, but then suddenly were able to have several healthy pregnancies back to back. Sometimes it just One Of Those Things.

4 months of trying is still way too early to be worried. I'm not trying to be insensitive! I know it's frustrating. You should certainly speak to your doctor to make sure there isn't an underlying health problem, but the more you worry about it, the worse your stress becomes and then... well. You're not going to get pregnant that way either, are you?

My mom simply decided "I'd like to get pregnant now", and it pretty much happened. I wondered too, how I could have problems and she did not. But it all worked out in the end!

Best of luck to you!
Aug 19, 2010 @ 11:55 am

thanks for your reply

I am not someone who stress for thoses things and I try not to think to much about it, but it's bothering me that every month my periods are there.

I might have some weight to loss but I already lost 10 pounds in the last 3-4 months and I am not overly overweight. I am kind of stress out tough. So i guess all of thoses things doesn't help. :(

Is 30 starting to get old to have babies? we all know that women have babies late now but can it affect the time you have to wait to get pregnant?
Aug 19, 2010 @ 12:01 pm


It's so person-to-person, but I think as a general rule 30 is not at all too old to be starting a family. Is it easier the younger you are? Assuming you are in good health, perhaps yes. Women's fertility does decrease with age, but I believe you are still in a very good spot.

As far as your weight is concerned, having a little more to love is perfectly okay. In fact, animals in nature that are underweight will either have weak young or not reproduce at all. It takes a tremendous amount of energy to carry a baby, and a very slender person doesn't have fat reserves to draw on. That's not saying a slim person has lower fertility necessarily! Only a doctor can tell you if you're a healthy weight to have the best chances of conceiving and carrying a child to term.

Among my friends who were a little bigger, none had fertility problems except for one girl who was extremely obese. From your comments it seems that is not the case for you!

It's stressful to get your period each month when all you want is to have that squirmy little bundle of joy in your arms! I understand :) Check with your doc to make sure there aren't any special reasons for your delay in conceiving, but otherwise just do what you can to relax about it. You'll need it - those 2 am feedings are not very fun!
Aug 19, 2010 @ 02:30 pm

helping a lot


I am very glad to hear all of that! On all my friends I have only one that have kids and we don't really talk about it because her two pregnancies were not planned. All my other friends are either singles or don't have kids.

I guess i ll keep trying and I,ll talk to my doctor in a few months if it's still not happening. :)
Aug 19, 2010 @ 03:12 pm

How well do you

know your cycle? I know exactly when Im ovulating therefore my prime fertile period. First child was @ 19 and an oops, so no help here. I was getting married at 34 and my Doctor was concerned that my age may slow things done in the baby making department - said just go to it and give it a few months....blah, blah, Well first time lucky! I was actually a few weeks preg at the wedding! but didnt know yet. Got my tubes tied when my son was born since it was too easy and didnt want more children. Im 42 and still too regular with the periods and ovulation - should have bee a surrogate mom lol!
Weight isnt always a factor either as I was 190lbs at my wedding. Have you had your hormone levels just just to be sure, and do you chart your best conception time? dont want to get graphic here - but elevated hips for an hour 'afterward', be sure you are doing it daily or at least every second day during prime time. Start you Folic acid vitamins now, Too much drinking, smoking (or anything) can affect his sperm count - ohh let the boys cool down - tight undies affect sperm- boxers are better!
There are lots of things to try before getting discouraged! Good luck!
Aug 20, 2010 @ 03:51 pm


No I haven't have my hormones level check... :( I didn't know you could do that. lol
Does drinking once in a while (for woman) can affect the chance of becoming pregnant?

i ll try your advices :)
Aug 23, 2010 @ 12:49 pm


I have never heard that very occasional drinking affects your fertility. Many women socially drink in moderation all the time and have no difficulty getting pregnant. However, if you're serious about trying, you'll want to be watchful about your alcohol consumption so that the moment you realize you are pregnant you can avoid it.

Many European (and other) women continue to drink small amounts during pregnancy and have no issues whatsoever, but most docs would say the safest thing is to give it up altogether.
Aug 23, 2010 @ 02:13 pm


thanks... i am thinking the same thing!

Aug 24, 2010 @ 10:11 am


I can honestly say, if you have been on the pill the patch or the shot for a long period of time it can take up to a year for it to completely get out of your system and potentially take longer.
My advice is to try to forget about it, if your stressing over it your body will react differently, and stress is no good for anyone.
Secondly take daily multi-vitamins to be in good health before becoming pregnant is important, and trust me it helps regulate your hormones if your body is lacking anything..
Also try different sex positions, you may have a tilted uterus, which is common. So his stuff could have a hard time making it there without the help of gravity.

P.S Have fun making the baby its one of the funnest parts, put the baby thoughts on the back burner when your intimate, make it about the moment. A very colse friend of mine tried to get pregnant for over a year and she gave up thinking she couldn't have kids and as soon as she stopped trying BANG! she was pregnant. So don't beat yourself up it will happen.
Aug 24, 2010 @ 07:43 pm

Totally agree with Jessica

My daughter was not planned- far from it-so I can't really respond from personal experience but I have friends in similar situations, who are trying to have children and the outcome really varies from person to person.

In the scope of things, you have not been trying for that long so I dont think that drastic measures are necessary yet, if at all...the best thing you can do is take care of your body so its primed and ready for pregnancy and relax. Being wrapped up in anxiety is not going to do anything but make this a stressful situation and as Jessica said, the making of a baby should be a positive and fun experience.

Best of luck

Aug 25, 2010 @ 01:09 pm

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