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ADVICE? Am I being selfish or too self-conscious?

Anonymous

I am having a pregnancy scare.

I feel forced to terminate if I am pregnant because of how my family and partner would feel. My Mom would shame me, despite being 25-years-old. My cousin would be hurt as I could no longer be in her wedding party/attend due to no-children rule. Her little sister is pregnant (God help her
Dec 21, 2017 @ 05:51 pm

15 Replies

fredamans

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At 25, you need to make the choice that is right for you, not anyone else.
Doesn't help at all, but it is what it is.
Ask yourself what you want. Then go from there.

Good luck!
Dec 21, 2017 @ 06:19 pm
faithroy

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I have no previous experience with this situation, but what I would say is that it is your body and you have the right to choose what you do. Stick to what you want to do, and do that. Do not worry about what anyone else has to say.
In the end it all comes down to you. Family should always be there and respect your decisions, even if it is not what they want.
Dec 21, 2017 @ 11:40 pm
lamurap

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My advice to you is, if you think that you are ready to be a mom at this moment in your life, then carry the baby to term (if you are indeed pregnant). Please do not rush into a decision because this is a life-long commitment.
Dec 25, 2017 @ 08:35 pm
Shystarr79

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You're twenty five years old and a grown women. This is a time in your life you need to think about what will make you happy and not others. As for your cousin I'm sure she will be happy you are having a baby. It's a joyful time. I was twenty one when I had my son and he was one of the best things in my life. No one will ever love you quite like your children. Now my son is eighteen and I have raised a wonderful boy who is doing great things and makes me proud every day. A choice to terminate a child should not be for any other reason than you are not ready and don't want a child. If you think you are capable of having a child and loving a child than go for it cause love is the main thing any child wants. If the child will be unloved than you have a hard decision to make.
Dec 25, 2017 @ 10:42 pm
wendyroy

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This must be a scary time for you. As the other chicks mentioned, its really your decision, but it sounds like you are struggling with your decision tbe wters are getting muddied with other opinions. Can you see a counsellor to help you determine what YOUR choice would be? There are usually counsellors through schools hospitals, etc...either way this is a big decision, so please seek advice from someone not invested in you personally. GOOD LUCK
Dec 27, 2017 @ 10:24 am
Aliyarao

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I would like to say if you are pregnant don't terminate it and don't hurry to make any decision take your time but I wouldn't recommend you do it because kids are a gods blessings the. Moments you have the baby you will forget all the pain and stress it's the best feeling in the world but it's your decision at the end of the day but do talk to someone when taking a decision there are many anonymous helplines that could help and Good luck
Dec 27, 2017 @ 05:42 pm
TriciaLove

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If you feel you are ready for it you are definitely old enough to make your own life decisions. Don’t let anyone control what you do with your life. Other people have no problem running your life when you let them. In the end you may not be happy with the decisions that they basically made for you. So make you happy.. you have to live with yourself for the rest of your life.
Jan 01, 2018 @ 06:20 pm
sykosomatix

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It's a big decision, but you are an adult so it is YOUR decision and no one elses. Think long and hard, research your options and do some soul searching. Do you want children? do you feel like you're in a place where you can care for them, even if its on your own? It's okay to go through with terminating the pregnancy if you truly feel like it's the right thing for you to do. Ultimately you're the one who has to live your life and continue on with the choices you make, not your family and not even your partner. Also, take into consideration that yeah, this is a big scary thing that happening, you might be projecting your own fears onto your family members -- there's always the chance that things will be ok.
Jan 04, 2018 @ 01:47 pm
yukkie

Chin up

First, please don't make any decision based on what you think others may or may not feel or how they may or may not react. Any decisions should solely be up to you and you alone. And, please, don' make it in haste. One step at a time. First, find out if you're really pregnant. Don't overthink it and go crazy thinking what others will think or say. The people in your life may surprise you and will be very supportive.
All the best to you.
Jan 04, 2018 @ 10:29 pm
yellowbus07

Your Choice

This is a Very Personal Decision for You To Make. No One has the right to guilt You into anything when it comes to being A Mom or Not. If You feel You are ready for it or Not!! That is Your Choice to make.
Jan 05, 2018 @ 04:11 pm

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