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Advice for Guys

Ali de Bold

Girls, I think we should share a few pointers with the men. It's only fair. If you have any tips, or guys want to ask any questions, do it here!

One piece of advice I always give my guy friends is Be Honest! If you are truly your authentic self she will like you a lot more than anything fake you conjur up. We've all met guys who pretend to be someone they aren't and as soon as we discover it's all an act, you're done. Being you is always better :)
Nov 17, 2006 @ 01:17 pm

8 Replies


CameronF

problem

I am always honest when it comes to women and still don't get anywhere ,What could be wrong?
Dec 14, 2006 @ 05:36 pm
Ali de Bold

That's not enough info

You have to be more specific about what you're doing in order for us to help you figure out what 's not working.
Dec 14, 2006 @ 08:52 pm
CameronF

RE: problem

i guess it seems ive fallen for all the wrong women in my life , as for whats not working well i just got to where i can ask a woman out and now thats happened , i dont know how to approach women without letting on i dont want just sexual relationships.
Dec 14, 2006 @ 11:45 pm
kimkimkim

Advice for guys

I hate how guys act different around their friends than they do around their girlfriends. I absolutely HATE it!
Dec 14, 2006 @ 11:52 pm
Ali de Bold

You've answered your own question

You're attracting the wrong kind of women. You should explore one of your hobbies like if you enjoy volleyball, go play on a co-ed recreational team or sign up for salsa lessons or some other activity you enjoy where you can just be yourself. You'll meet people who get to know you and appreciate you as a friend first and then you'll feel more at ease to be yourself. I met Alex playing beach volleyball. You just never know... Good luck!
Dec 15, 2006 @ 10:55 am
Kazie

Get Real

I guess at the end of the day, girls like guys who are true and real. No point putting up a front that is not the real you. It ain't going to attract the type of girls that like the real you. In that case, how long do you think the relationship is ever going to last or even blossom?
Dec 19, 2006 @ 02:01 am
Martha Lilian

Communication!

One of the best tips to guys, is COMMUNICATE. Honesty is fantastic but in order for there to be honesty there has to be communication. I know that it can be hard -- men and women have entirely different communication styles -- but it is well worth the effort.

She does want to know what you are thinking and what you are feeling. If she doesn't know these things, how to you expect her to converse with you? Also, women will often talk in order to fill the void in a conversation. If you don't want to feel like she's just nattering on, then speak up! More than likely she was just waiting for you to say something all along.

Think of things to say before you go out. Read a newspaper so that you are well informed on current events, so that you aren't just talking about the weather. Talk about a book that you've just read or a movie you've seen. Don't talk poorly about people, because she could get the idea that as soon as you're gone, you're saying the same horrible things about her. If she's obviously not interested, move on to something else.

Communication is the cornerstone for a good relationship and something that is important to establish from the very beginning. Best of luck!
Dec 27, 2006 @ 09:50 am
mamaluv

listening is soooo important

This goes for both sexes. I go to a lot of office shindigs with my hubby and am intensely irritated when I make an effort to express interest in someone's story, career, or situation and they don't reciprocate. Like I once spent an entire evening listening to a woman rag on about which JennAir (expensive range/oven) she was going to buy, and she never once even asked me anything beyond my name.

So too in the dating world. I went on one date where the guy went on and on about stuff that interested him, but never turned the conversation to what was going on with me. He was so busy gabbing and eventually I got tired of it. There has to be a give-and-take.

As for Cameron, assuming you are already doing your best to get things started with women, I guess you have to follow her lead. If she seems very open about her life and tastes, then you may be able to just come out and say that you're not the type who just wants fun and games. Don't go so far as to say you're looking for your soulmate or are itching to hitch, but you can let her know that you look 3 or 4 dates down the road and don't hop in bed with just anyone.

Of course, there are a lot of girls who might see that as just another line, but what can you do?!
Jan 10, 2007 @ 02:29 pm

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