Boy vs BFF Dilemma


I recently started becoming attracted to a guy that one of my close friends likes. But the thing is, she admitted that she only likes him for his looks. However, she's also a little obsessive over him, talking about him a lot (though, she does also have other crushes).

I'm not sure if these feelings will go away shortly, or if they will grow; but if the latter, I'm not sure what to do. Obviously "sisters before misters", but  does the fact that he only likes him for the physical, whereas I like him because we get along comfortably, justify me potentially "stealing" him?

I've gotten in trouble before for having feelings and flirting with a guy that my friend liked before, but then claimed she didn't really... which is why I thought I could make moves in the first place...

What would you ladies if you were in my shoes?

Nov 19, 2010 @ 04:57 pm

2 Replies


Keep both

That's tricky. I guess it depends on your friendship history. Is this a reaccuring thing on her end? How long have you been friends? and is she a good friend to you? Also what do you think she would do if she were in your shoes?

Just somethings to think about. If you decide then that this guy is worth it, I'd say go for it. And if she is a good friend she will understand (since she does have multiple crushes it shouldnt be that hard for her) Let her know how you REALLY feel about him and her. That you value your friendship and dont want to just throw that away.

Hope that helps!

Nov 19, 2010 @ 09:23 pm

Good Friends

Thanks for your response nannykinz!

We're really good friends, and I'd like to keep it that way. I think she would back off if I told her about it... but I know deep down she'd probably be a little hurt and feel a bit betrayed... She's a little convinced that he might like me though, but I don't really think so.

I still have yet to get to know the guy more before I can make my decision, so I guess I'll lay low till then.
Nov 22, 2010 @ 10:25 am

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