on Dec 21, 2015 @ 03:10 pm|
I understand that I carry a large "work load" throughout the year as hubby is stuck in the dark ages but my stress level during the holidays is crazy. The regular full time job, taxing 2 kids (they are teens), holiday cleaning, decorating, shopping, cooking, baking, wrapping and socializing - all while he still sits in front of the TV and occasionally asks can I do anything? Why can't he just get up and help and if I do say yes he does that ONE thing when he is ready (commercial etc) and that is it. I have scaled down the holidays a LOT since I can't do it all - does anyone have any other suggestions to keeping the LOVE alive during the holiday stresses?
|I hear ya on Dec 21, 2015 @ 03:14 pm|
You sounds exactly like me. It is hard making Christmas special when you have so much in your plate but I have told myself that if the house isn't super clean then that's okay. Or if I don't bake everything I wanted to its not the end of the world. You want to enjoy the holidays so just do what you can and anything you do will probably be more than enough anyway :)
|Thanks! on Dec 21, 2015 @ 03:16 pm|
My son's birthday was yesterday (yes Add on a Dec 20 child) and I actually fell asleep in Star Wars - lol - just looking for ways not to just climb under the tree for a Long Winter's Nap!! LOL! Glad to know I am not alone!!
|Honey Do list? on Dec 21, 2015 @ 03:19 pm|
Maybe before the holidays make a list together of things you would like to accomplish for the holidays, and divvy it up together...including the teens. They may enjoy tackling some of the baking. Hubby can scrub the john, or buy a couple of the kids' gifts. It shouldn't be up to you to be Wonder Woman. Of course, I'm single with no kids...so take my advice with a grain of salt.
|wonder Woman on Dec 21, 2015 @ 03:27 pm|
I love it Single Wonder Woman!! :) Might work if started early enough and enough perks involved - lol but great ideas
|. on Dec 21, 2015 @ 05:42 pm|
I hear this complaint from other women a lot and honestly, it's hard for me to advise because (so sorry) my husband is a dream. I have a lot of health issues and he's essentially a carer. He works so hard and is so compassionate and loving that I'm the one left feeling guilty!
Try being honest with your husband about how you feel and have a heart to heart about how stressed you are and how you'd like him to make the effort to contribute more!
|Stress free on Dec 21, 2015 @ 06:45 pm|
My husband is very good to help out during the holidays because he knows how stressed I get so he does the grocery shopping and we take turns cooking meals,so sharing in some of the duties makes life stress free
|CHRISTMAS WORK LOAD on Dec 21, 2015 @ 08:45 pm|
I think most women have this in common not only at Christmas but all year long. Times have changed now women have to do it all. Be Super Women. I at times to feel over whelmed with housework. laundry,taking care of the pets.shopping, work.The list goes on and on. But I try to not get to stresses out and really try to enjoy my life. I also try to take timeout for myself whether it is being on my computer, a nice relaxing bubble bath or a cup of tea.
|Chrissy on Dec 21, 2015 @ 09:12 pm|
I totally agree with this, there is far too much pressure on women, especially mothers!
That being said, I'm a nice and polite person, but my mum is quite bold and has a bit of a rougher character and she finally was able to teach me to tell people to off sometimes and just say 'no, I'm not doing it.'
So don't forget to make sure you are not running yourself ragged, ladies, for someone else or the wrong reason. You are important and what you want is important too <3
|<3 on Dec 22, 2015 @ 07:49 am|
i swear by lists!!
and i start early
earlier i start, earlier i am done and can enjopy
|Christmas work load on Dec 22, 2015 @ 09:41 am|
Not sure if it will work for you but this is what I do. On Sunday evenings I make a list of things that need to be done for the following week, I mark off what I want to do on my own, like cooking and baking and cleaning the bathroom (hes not good at that one) then I take the list to my husband (and my daughter when she lived at home), I give him (them) a copy of the list and then we all discuss and divvy up who will do the task either by themselves ot together. This has been working quite well for the past 15 years and makes him (them) feel like they have a choice.