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Anonymous

My bestfriend in th whole wide worldis outta control!!! ever since the start of 2009 she has been
-sleeping around alot
- cheated on all of her bf's some multiple times
-and ever since she has met my bf (friend at the time) i can tell she like love him i swear.
Now every thing got soo complex!!! and its like a competition I hate it!!!!!
how can i get her to stop without sounding like her mom???and how can i get her to get over my bf?
Apr 07, 2009 @ 09:00 pm

5 Replies


mamaluv

what's going on?

Clearly this girl is going through something that is making her act out. Unfortunately, she may not choose to confide in you about what that is. However, you need to tell her lovingly to keep her mitts off your guy. Even if you and he don't end up married with kids, it is completely inappropriate for her to try to steal him away from you.

If she doesn't respect your boundaries, you need to give her some space for a while. JMO.
Apr 08, 2009 @ 08:23 am
Anonymous

Jerk-O-Meter

If she is trying to steal your bf she is not your friend. Telling her to stop will only make her try harder. She can sleep with whoever she wants whenever she wants and thats really none of your business... until she sets her sights on your man of course. If he is your bf (officially) then you have nothing to worry about unless your bf would cheat on you.. in that case you dont want him anyway. Think of her as a jerk-o-meter. She can weed out the losers at zero cost to you.

Apr 12, 2009 @ 02:15 pm
Anonymous

Answer: My opinion

Wow, well to tell you the truth I have a friend like that, and for a while it really sucked. I didn't want to sound like her mom as you said but I wasn't going to sit around and deal with their bull s*** all day. So I talked to her. And in my opinion words are the most powerful thing a person has. But to tell you the truth you can't change the person, but you can change the way they think. I told my friend my side of the situation and she gladly told hers, then I told her our friendship is at stake and that made her listen. I told her "Friends are the family you choose, don't make me regret choosing you." Use your words to your advantage, and if that doesn't work then perhaps you shouldnt have chose her? If she is your friend she will cut it out if not you have some major thinking to do.

I hope everything works out for you.
Peace
Apr 13, 2009 @ 09:25 pm
MissLissa

pretty easy

It is now time for you to grow up. I don't mean to come off as harsh but I feel that you need to dump her and get a new friend. You don't need people in your life that do harmful, attention seeking things. You need someone who can show you and even more-so, herself, some respect. There are plenty of adult people who don't act out that can be a good friend and someone who can be a positive influence in your life. Stop playing childish games and hopefully by the time she grows up you both can be friends again. You deserve the best in friends. Not someone that you are upset and embarrassed by.
Apr 23, 2009 @ 12:02 am
Anonymous 3546

Could be medical

Hi,
does your friend have really big highs and lows? Her acting out could be a sign of a medical problem.
Apr 29, 2009 @ 08:57 pm

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